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Submitted by SOUTHERNGAL on Tue, 07/25/2006 - 1:34am

It thrills me to find all of you! I have had a crazy worldwind in the last two years in becoming a SP. The Ex has put me through some ringers. The Ex has done everything posible to break my husband and I up. Using my SS in her EVIL GAMES. My SS has been told not to talk /listen to me,the EX tells my husband that "she" hasn't given me the approve to become a SM, and uses my SS (who is 6 yrs old)to call CPS on me. Then takes my SS to 4 other proffesionals trying to find proof of something that didn't happen. Withholds my SS from my husband for two months without reason and we find out all of this once my husband losses it on the phone with her. On top of it all, my husband and I opened a business together which deals directly with children during the time the Ex called the authorities. I feel as through she has some serious screws loss. Our family life has really been a rocky road from the start. My husband and I are slowly learning how to deal with the EX. We are mostly concerned about our kid. The Ex plays to many games with my SS's mind. How do I deal with the EVIL woman? I never know when to talk or defend myself,because it brings more conflict to the situation.Any advice, A young marriage and a caring SP, so please help! To much DRAMA!

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Submitted by lylagarrett on Tue, 07/25/2006 - 7:03am

Welcome! I don't have any advice for you but can just say that you're not alone. We have all basically had the same EVIL ex problems as you. I, myself, know exactly what you are going through and can tell you it's only the beginning. I have been going through it for 14 years! Good Luck! And this is the greatest place to vent and talk over your thoughts and fears.

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Submitted by skye22 on Tue, 07/25/2006 - 9:50am

Its true. I just joined but I can already relate to a lot of what I've heard. Do you mind my asking how long you've been married and what the situation was with your husbands ex. I myself have a almost 6 year old stepson. And his mother really messes with his mind too. I get along with her okay, I make myself. But its really hard becasue she is awful to my husband. Most of the time they both make me the middleman. Which is weird. I guess I'm just wondering what motivates the ex to act crazy and think that is okay. My husband and I have an eleven month old boy and I would never put my son through the crap that my step sons mom has exposed him to. Thankfully we have a great marriage but even if.... I don't understand why the children aren't taken into consideration. As you can see, I'm venting Smile My best advice is put it in writing. I personally went through a time where we could not talk civilly. So we let her know that anything having to do with my stepson needed to be addressed in letters, unless it was an absolute emergency. This cut down on some of the unnessicary attidude while trying to reslove simple parenting issues.
This is off the subject but my steoson hair had gotten reaaly long so we took him to get it cut. We thought maybe she didn't have the money, which was a constant complaint. So the next we got a letter from her attorney stating that we has no right to do this and that she is is legal gardian and makes all the decisions where he is concerned. And that her permission was required. WHAT?????

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Submitted by Nise on Tue, 07/25/2006 - 1:50pm

We had the same issue arrise, sd was 5 at the time and gaining A LOT of weight so we put her in a physical activity that meet during our visitation time...mom went NUTS...called the facility and threatened a law suit vs. the owner b/c she was the legal guardian! It's hard to work with FRUIT LOOPS!

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Submitted by steppie1999 on Tue, 02/12/2008 - 1:08pm

Dealing with a BM who plays mind games with their own children are incredibly hard to deal with....unless you're prepared to kiss a lot of BM rear-end, have your life controlled by BM, etc.
Unfortunately, you can only try to keep mind games to the bare minimum by not contributing. Don't say anything derogatory about BM while SS within earshot, ignore her attempts to start trouble by making accusations, etc. BM will still try and find things that she disapproves of in order to have something to bad-mouth but in our experience the best way we've dealt with BM is IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE

"I prefer my life STRESS FREE...When you're STRESSIN'...You're STRESSIN' me"