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Sootica's picture

At the beginning of the year I told DH he needs to have a serious talk with SS13 about the birds and the bees as in addition to all the drama SS was causing at school I just had a gut instinct SS was up to no good.Of course DH didn't and 2 months ago we find out SS13 has a GF14 who he has been dating for the last 7 months with BM's blessing.Well doing the washing yesterday guess what I pull out of SS pocket?A condom wrapper and used condom :jawdrop:

I just think 13 is way too young (not to mention illegal) for SS to be engaging in sexual activity.DH will talk to him about this,but I see a baby mama in SS very near future.

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Unfreakingreal's picture

Not if he's using condoms there won't be a baby momma. Good for him for using protection.

WTF...REALLY's picture

Good to hear he is using a condom. She should get on the pill as well. Double up on protection.

Sootica's picture

Yes clevergirlfriend99 in the UK a 13 year old boy having sex with a under 16 girl is illegal even if she agrees to it.

Unfreakingreal I agree it is good he is using protection,however as we all know condoms are not 100% effective especially if not used correctly.

kathc's picture

13? Are you effing kidding? GROSS

Shit, good that the kid had sense to use a condom but, wtf, is he using it properly? Is he using one every time? How the fuck does BM think this is OK???

Tuff Noogies's picture

:jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop:
this could be yss in about a year....
OH MY GOD. i just cant get my head around that!!!!!!!!!
does... not... compute.

Sootica's picture

My worry is that:

1.SS is not the most mature 13.
2. SS is not the most patient responsible person so unprotected sex is bound to happen at some point.
3. If the GF at any point decides she wants revenge if they split up she can cry Rape.
4. If this girl ends up pregnant it will become DH's problem as BM is not even responsible for herself never mind anyone else.

Yes I think it's beyond gross that a 13 year old is carrying on like this.

WTF...REALLY's picture

But it's happened. So now it's time for sex Ed, frank talks and helpful movies. DH can't hide his head in the sand over this one. He will from here on be having sex. DH needs to go condom shopping with him, make sure he know how to put it on and take it off. And get him the unlubercated type. It might slip off him. Teenagers don't need any extra lube. Just sayin.....

Unfreakingreal's picture

13 is too young for sex. YES, agreed.
However, CLEARLY, he is already doing it.
So….what to do, what to do…
Well, for starters, someone needs to TEACH him proper protocol with condoms and how they are used and discarded.
Second, someone should talk to the GF's parents and make sure SHE is on the pill.
Third - pray for the best, it's all you can do at this point.
To the poster who said "lock him down" that NEVER works. I had my BS17 on lockdown. The kid never left the house, never was allowed at sleepovers and went to Catholic school. BOOM, I'm a grandma. He found just enough time to have a quickie in the backseat of a car and make a baby. So locking them down, is useless. They wanna have sex, they'll make time for sex.

WTF...REALLY's picture

BOOM, I'm a grandma.

This cracked me up. Sorry. All I can picture is the clouds parting and BOOM.....instant grandma. Smile

And yeah....no such thing as lock down. Kids will find a way. And a teenage boy only needs 5 minutes.

Unfreakingreal's picture

LOL, that's kinda how it felt, like the skies opened up and cracked me over the head with a baby. Smile

DaizyDuke's picture

BM2 told DH last year that she started giving condoms to SS when he was 11. She's a whole lot of awesome sauce ain't she?

I wanted to vomit when DH told me... the thought of an ELEVEN year old having sex????? :O

DaizyDuke's picture

EW!?? We were swinging and singing "Jack and Diane" in 5th grade.. NOT talking about sex! I'm terrified for BS5. Truly Terrified. I'm looking into radiator chains immediately.

ChiefGrownup's picture

Well, for one thing I might make him watch one or more of those graphic childbirth videos that are usually for expectant parents.

I would find out if there's some child custody/child support hearing I could take him to. Probably family court is not open to the public but I would find out for sure. If I couldn't take him, I would make him read some real cases.

I would get some medical pics of stretch marks on a woman and post childbirth deflated abdomen.

Hopefully one or more of these extremely unsexy images will stick in his head at the right moment.

And I might make him start depositing all his allowance and other money into an account for future child support.

I would do it all cheerfully. When he whined and protested, I would say smiling big, "What? What's wrong? Oh, you're not 'ready' for all this? Yes, you must be because with the one comes all the rest. Can't have it both ways, son!"

Unfreakingreal's picture

LOL, if the Medical Encyclopedia, that I opened up for my son, to the page with graphic color photos, of a whole lot of penises with all sorts of clusters and growths and things oozing out didn't scare his ass enough? I have no idea what will.
Oh, wait, I now what worked. The screaming baby girl that wakes his ass up at 3am on the weekends. Yeah, THAT was what worked! LOLOLOL!

ChiefGrownup's picture

See, even adults don't think they are gonna get something cuz they are special and only sleep with special people. So you gotta hit him with something he really feels like confiscating his money. Spending a lot of time doing boring stuff like reading child support cases comes at a cost of all the fun things he could be doing at that time but can't because he has these responsibilities now like reading stuffy stuff.

Having said all that, my hat is always off to you UFR, you rock on this subject, and I am all hot air cuz I certainly ain't never been through it. I have no idea what's going to happen with ss13 because he's so compliant if someone told him to drop trow he would do so immediately. This leads dh and me to imagine all sorts of scary scenarios. Sigh. I'll be calling you for help on that day.

Unfreakingreal's picture

Well, you never know how you're gonna react till it happens to you. I talked a LOT of shit in my house. "If you EVER knock up a girl, don't even bother coming home! Pack your shit when I am sleeping and GET THE FUCK OUT! I ain't raising anybody's babies!" Blah, blah, blah….
And then it happened and my heart broke. Literally, I could feel the shards up against my chest cavity. I spent a year in sadness and thought I would NEVER recover. Yet, here I am, planning my precious granddaughters birthday party. I love her so much that every crack in my heart mended itself.
The best part though…While I worried that BS17 would want nothing to do with her, just last week, a friend asked him in front of me…"If you could do it all over, would you?"
My son blew me away when he said "Even though it was the most horrible year of my life, I wouldn't change it because if I did, I wouldn't have my beautiful baby."
So I guess I did something right.

ChiefGrownup's picture

You do it ALL right, you know we are all in awe.

Magic power babies have, that heart healing. Same phenom at funerals, someone hands you a baby, your grief starts to heal. Very magical, babies.

new to this's picture

I caught my son dry humping a girl at 13 or 14, I had a fit, I asked him if he was ready to be a daddy, to quit school, get a job and be a father!! I mean I was yelling, I said a lot of stuff, I don't even remember what all I said. But it worked, he did end up having sex before I wanted him too but he used a condom, there was no babies until he was married. You got to talk to them about this stuff, don't let DH put his head in the sand. Does BM know about this? Like unfreaking said they are going to do what they are going to do, but his father needs to talk to him about it and point out the consequences that goes along with doing something that is for adults.

Sootica's picture

Yes BM knows she thinks it's "cute" that SS has a "serious" GF :sick: I have told DH repeatedly he needs to talk to SS and now after this he allegedly will -we shall see when he is back here on Tues.

As for me making sure SS uses protection,is ready for child support,make sure his GF is on the pill? I haven't even met his GF, I don't have the type of relationship with SS to give him a sex ed class (things have deteriorated between us this past year to the point where we are barely speaking). I'm just tired of the continual drama caused by crappy parent -YES DH I'm looking at YOU & BM!