SD11 FINALLY admitted that she doesn't want me around and that she "expected me to be like BM" which basically entails ignoring her not doing a damn thing around the house and paying ALL my attention to SD7. (as for doing things around the house BM did NOTHING. No laundry no cooking no cleaning hell this woman went so far as to dump a bowl of cereal on the table and then throw a table cloth over it. When she left DH literally had to SAND the dining room table to get the dried food off. Hmmmm wonder why he stayed gone all the time?) how in the hell do I handle this? I mean really? The last time I "disengaged" things went from bad to worse with this kid. She's in counceling but that really doesn't seem to be helping (and before I get attacked on that she has been going for a year and a half) nothing seems to be changing with her. Frankly I'm almost to the point of just "whatever" with her. I refuse to take her anywhere with me because of her attitude and actions. We already have the problem of BM ignoring her. Sigh maybe I should just give up on this one.