DH is In a funk
Trying again to post my blog. DH spent Thanksgiving in a funk. I posted last month about DH being hurt realizing SS26 made 2 social media posts about SGD6's birthday party at BM's, followed the next week by multiple posts with 60+ pics of SS26 & family having a "tour" of the state with BM, yet no post whatsoever from our party for SGD6 where DH did several of the same things with SGDs that BM did the next week, such as making s'mores in the fire pit. SD26 & family have visited us the day after Thanksgiving the past few years through plans made between SS26's DW and me. I told DH after the most recent social media snub I'm OUT. All plans can be made between him and SS26.
DH made no plans with SS26 to visit. On Thanksgiving morning, I got a text from SS26's DW wishing me Happy Thanksgiving. I told DH and Wondered out loud if that was a hint about visiting. DH said we'd "catch them at Christmas." (And remember, we were at our new lake house 45 mins from where SS26 was at BM's, instead of 2 hours away at our home.) Two days after Thanksgiving, SS26's DW texted me again and asked how our holiday was. I suspected this was a hint for us to invite them to visit. I told DH that and he finally told me things were "so difficult" after the bday party he didn't want to deal with it. DH said it's clear now that BM is on social media, SS26 feels the need to try even harder to show her she's #1 and express his loyalty. In the meantime, we had to endure multiple inquiries from DH's family asking if we saw SS26 and family for Thanksgiving.
So, we had a skid free holiday. Great, right? Perhaps it would be, but DH was down in the dumps. I could have coordinated a visit with SS26's DW like I have in the past, but I don't think that would have helped. Would be just more of me being the liaison for DH to people who don't care about me. Honestly, I could easily go on as though SSs didn't exist, but even though they're not present, it's as though there's a pall cast over everything. I don't see any resolution here, since SS26 is never going to treat DH well out of loyalty to BM. Now I'm dreading Christmas.