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welcom to the hell we call step parenting....

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just gave a client her album. the dh has 3 kids, the youngest is about to be 18.

the dh is a really nice guy, he is a doctor and stayed married to the nasty which ex for way too long only because of the kids.

the ex, who is now a lesbian, took him to the cleaners, and in the process agreed to many things. EVERYTHING was settled, and even though the ex was brain washing the kids, they were old enough it didnt matter really, two are away at college.

ot..very contorversial, but seriously

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why does the US send so much money to other places who dont give a shit about our help? Well they want our money, but they talk shit about us the whole time their hand is out. we cant afford to pay our teachers, people are starving and living on the streets because they cant find jobs, and we are sending how much more money to a place we already support through aid because they cant survive?

what do you think..just for the sake of opinion..from advise sm/bm blog?

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when i become i bm, im
Submitted by smnikki on Thu, 01/14/2010 - 3:53pm.

when i become i bm, im guessing because i am so hands on, i would feel the same in a way. but like you im not a nut job, and i would not have had the cops called on me for taking my child when it wasnt my night.

I need some sm/bm advice...

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okay, soooooo last week bm caused alllll kinds of drama starting tuesday saying that ss needs counseling for his anger issues...which was weird because she NEVER admits to any thing that happens at her house or that she is less than the perfect mother.

wednesday she asks dh to figure something out because she has to move to whitetrashville, and basically eludes to the fact that ss will be living up there with her. she texts things like, im not asking im telling you that im moving.

skids in school, 50/50 custody, whats your schedule, what works doesnt work?

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we have 50/50 and the current schedule is that we have ss every mon, and tues, and every other fri, sat, sun....so it rotates we have him 2 days and then for 5, and so on.

bm finally got a job (not to better herself, or to be stable for ss, but because her bf threatened to leave her) anyways, she has to work now so she just cant take having him for 5 straight days. and she told dh that she thinks they will need to change the schedule soon.

Why are we held to higher expectations not only by everyone in our lives, but on here too?

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i posted a blog about an out burst i had with bm last night. she was calling me names because she herd me telling dh points he was forgetting to bring up with her.

so i yelled back in the background...im a better mother, youre a jealous fat bitch, thats pretty much the extent of my immature behavior. and while i agree it was immature, why do i have to ALWAYS sit back and allow bm to make immature personal attacks against me?

BM is an idiot and its about to cost her all her custody! ha, she didnt realize who i was!

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so ive been pretty quiet because bm has been on her best behavior. Always agreed to drop offs and pick ups, always agreeing on the phone about issues with ss (we told her to stop letting ss4 watch movies like the dark knight)...so all has been calm......but i knew the other shoe would drop..and today it did!!

BUT this time she has really kicked her self!!!

dh and i have been very worried about ss when he is with bm. I have MANY photos of ss over the last two months of bruises, scratches, and a messed up eye where bm's dog attacked ss. we didnt know what to do though...

WOW, BM has done a 180, and im shocked

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DH and i moved in to our new house in dec, bm made two harassing phone calls about our house being up to code with the pool. Dh handled it awesome and basically told her to pack sand.

BM's dog bit ss in the eye (beginning of dec) and its still bruised thats how bad it was, but bm didnt take ss to urgent care when it happened. Ever since bm has been very cordial and has not been hassling us or starting drama.

Where do your "issues" with skids come from that cause you to disengage?

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i ask because ss and i get along really well. he is almost 5. Most times when i find myself aggravated its because he is being a normal little boy, and is doing something like running up and down the stairs when ive told him our stairs are not a toy. He has bad table manners. but he his raised by trash 50% of the time so i know to expect that no one has really mad an effort to teach this child how to act respectable in public. However, I really dont disengage about anything when it comes to ss.

one small step for our communication with sil's...updat

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so i didnt send mil a card this year because i can not and will not EVER forgive the fact that she tried to help bm get full custody 2 weeks after dh and i were married. along with all her other satan like behavior....anyways, sil calls dh today to bitch dh out, that mil's feelings are hurt because everyone else in the family got a card besides her.....oh boo frekity hoo right?! anyways, sil goes on to say well maybe you should look at your self since your the one with no relationship with any of your family...dh flies of the handle and ends the convo upset

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