Is it him, me, or both of us?
I’m feeling like such a wicked stepmother. My little guy is 4-1/2, a wonderful age full of growth and being more of a “big boy” all the time… it’s also filled with stubbornness, mouthiness, whining, pouting, potty talk, etc. I don’t always have the patience I think I should for it and I find myself reprimanding him, then being worried about damaging our relationship and feeling like a big, fat meanie.
His mommy is more lenient than I am. For example, she laughs when he makes inappropriate references to his butt. I can only listen to that stuff and try to nicely correct it for so long. He pushed and pushed last night during his bath and I told him he was going to get it. He didn’t like that at all and told me I wasn’t being nice to him. He was also pissed that I wouldn’t let him have his own wash cloth after he did something else I repeatedly asked him not to do. Sorry, but I’m not going to reward a kid for bad behavior. I just can’t reinforce that.
I don’t know what to make of this. Does his mommy have (what seems to me to be) an easier time with him just because they’re mother and child? Am I lacking some “patient mothering gene?” Is it partially because he’s a preschool boy?
I’m the youngest of eight kids and became an aunt at age five. I was expected to act like a big girl waaaaaaaaaaay too young and I think that’s part of why I’m not as patient with little kid behavior as some other people are. I don’t want to take away any of the fun of being a little kid from my dear SS, but I can’t stand some of the antics.
Any insights, please! Thanks so much.