How do you guys deal with anger?
Lately I've notice I've been short-tempered and angry. Things right now are stressful, BM filed for sole legal and physical custody (right now it's joint 50/50), we are trying to sell our home to move, BS is a hormonal preteen, etc, etc. On top of these things summer is coming and I had to find money in the budget to get the kids new clothes. BS12 grew 4 inches in the past 2 months and can no longer fit anything, and the twins are also growing like weeds. I'm good at budgeting so I've been watching sales for BS12 and getting a lot of the twins clothes second hand. To me it's no point in spending a fortune for clothes that they will outgrow before it will need replacing.
Anywho, let's get to where I'm pissed. SD13 hasn't really grown much this year and can still fit a lot of her clothes from last year. I already picked up a few pairs of shorts and shirts that should be sufficient for the summer. Well LO and behold DH tells me SD came to him and said she has nothing to wear for the summer. I look in her room and most of last years clothes are GONE. Long story short she took them to BM's because she didn't have anything to wear there. BM gets CS so every two weeks she gets a nice check to buy SD things. I told DH he better get the clothes back, we aren't buying anything else for the summer.
This just adds fuel to the fire. We have paid an attorney to fight this custody case, which is just BM trying to get more CS, paying CS, doing all the driving, money is getting tight. I hate dipping into savings, even for emergencies. I just feel like the bulk of our money and energy is going into fighting to maintain a relationship with SD. I know it's not her fault, but I can't help but feel angry on exchange days, or even having to buy something for her. I'm trying to not let it get to me, I just don't know how to get over it. Since CS started DH has been working ot to bring home the same amount he was before. This means he's home less, and spending less time with the twins. Five days a week he literally sees them for 20 minutes before they go to bed. I hate this is taking over our lives.
Sorry for rambling, it's just a lot and I don't know what to do. Do you guys have any suggestions of how I can make this more bearable? I don't want to be angry all the time.