Will it ever end??
I have been a stepmom for 7 years now. My Stepdaughter was 5 and I had a 1 year old at the time her father and I met. She is currently about to turn 12 years old. Her father and I have been struggling to deal with her high conflict bio-mom for many years. Last year tensions between us and her grew. She took us to court 4 times. Once for child support, another to switch counties so we now go to court in a different county, she filed a restraining order against me and the last things was a contempt case against my husband. They are currently going to court to decide what school she will attend next year. Everytime some form of drama ends, she manages to create more drama. We try our best to parallel parent and we do not engage in any arguement she tries to throw our way. My stepdaughters behavior and attitude are difficult to deal with because when her mother cannot place blame on either me (stepmom) or her father, the blame is placed on my stepdaughter. Her and I have a strong bond and are connected. I feel as though her mother is angered by our relationship and is encouraging my stepdaughter to behave negativley towards her father and I. The bio-mom is in and out of different relationships often and moves around a lot. She works nights and is not able to spend sincere quality time with her. The bio-mom encourages my stepdaughter to lash out and blame us for any sitution or misunderstanding that arises. I went to one of my stepdaughters basketball games alone once because husband had to work. After the game I went to congratulate her on the game. I walked up, placed my hand on her shoulder and she quickly jerked herself away from me, rolled her eyes and walked over to her mother as they starred at me and laughed. It was a complete shock sense I have been attending her games since she was 6. Everytime the conflict or drama is over, we are served with more papers, suprised by a welfare check or drowing in attitude by my stepdaughter and the false allegations her bio mom plants. Will this ever end?? How can I help the sitution??