The Lawyer drew up the letter
This has been a hard decision for my boyfriend...he had her write a letter to exwife's lawyer saying either she signs full custody over to him, or she takes him on fulltime...in all honesty I'm hoping she takes him on fulltime cause if we have him, the drama won't stop, the blaming won't stop, and I probably won't stick this out anymore.....I more than likely think that she'll take him on full time though..she thinks she'll get a free ride this way...I told BF I'd get a second job to pay the bills when his child support goes up cause I'm sure it will...it seems like I was better off single at all angles..I had more money, I didn't have a psycho exwife stalking my every move, etc. I'm starting to wonder if love with worth all of this bullcrap
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Been there
SS lived with us for 2 years. Drama, drama. He lives with his mom now. Anyway, only having the skids eow is so nice. BM never calls and bothers us anymore (most of the time). They are really out of our life so to speak, except the CS and eow visits. Honestly, if he would have continued living here, I would probably be a young divorcee. I feel like that is one reason DH did not fight it. I just could not take the attitude or disrespect anymore. It was more than I bargained for. I know your DH loves his son, but in my opinion, kids grow up and move away; you will be there forever. Sometimes the sacrifice is worth it. I am sure there will be people who think that is terrible. DH loves his kids and would love for them to live here. But there has been so much brainwashing and BM talking horribly about us, I just know it would be a bad situation. And yes, being single is a hell of a lot better than dealing with this crap. I am counting down the days until the kids are gone. ONce they hit 19, I completely wash my hands of them bc that is when CS stops. Good luck honey!
I'm curious...
"ONce they hit 19, I completely wash my hands of them bc that is when CS stops."
Child support payments ceasing will be nice, but kids don't disappear once they are 19. You will be dealing with them for a long time after. College, weddings, grandkids, Holidays, etc.
I have the same mentality towards BM, I will wash my hands of her once the kids are old enough and cs isn't a factor because I don't see ANYTHING that we would need to converse about....but the kids? We don't stop being parents once they are of age.
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
I do
but that certainly does not mean DH will. If he wants to help with college and weddings and grandkids and holidays, that is fine. He can spend his money on them. Not my kids, not my problem. We are about to have our own child to take care of and that is where my priorities will lie. We pay more in CS per month than we will spend on our own child. SD has already told me in not so many words that she will not be coming around as much once she turns 16 anyway and our child will basically be an only child. If that is how she feels, then fine, I know where her heart lies and where it doesn't.