I am not sure what to do any more with my SKids laziness. I am not working so I baby sit for them. I was just wondering if you guys think that I am expecting too much, BM seems to think so, but I think she is retarded.

And does it make me lazy that I don't want to do EVERYTHING for them?

I have 2 SS (ages 6 1/2 and 4 1/2 - both birthdays are in MAY)

This week I threw in the towel with both of them.

SS6 takes forever to get ready to go somewhere - even his teacher has said that some times he misses recess because it takes him so long to get ready to go outside. I haven't been helping him at all this week to see if he will get faster. BM on the other hand still dresses him. So a lot of SS6's time is spent waiting on some one to help him/do it for him. Yesterday I got on him because he had been in Karate for 10 months and I have shown him, FDH has shown him and his teacher has shown him, how to put on his karate outfit. He still can't do it himself because it's easier for him to just be lazy and have someone else do it, he doesn't even try.

I also sent him out of the house a few times with shoes on the wrong feet and shirts on backwards. I have told him so many times that straps go on the outside of his body and tags go in back, but he doesn't even check before he puts them on. In a restaurant this week his face was really dry so I put hand lotion on him and he told me it was embarrassing, but what he wears doesn't seem to bother him.

SS4 refuses to dress himself even though he can if you push him but if you don't push he won't do it or will wait for you to do it. I know he is young yet but he seems to be going down the same path as SS6.

SS6 is doing bad in reading because he would gather guess the words then actually read them and if a page has too many words on it then he is done, he says he can't read it.

Neither child will pick up their toys and I really don't care about what happens in their rooms, if they are okay with it being messy then so I am - i just close the doors. but the living room bothers me and I have told them so many times to put all the toys away before bed but they don't so I have started going through in the morning before they wake up and I carry all the toys down into the down stairs play room and toss them on the floor, just waiting for them to ask where they went since they don't go down there much. The rule is the toys in the basement stay in the basement I theory on picking up toys is if they are bog enough to carry them out of their room then they can carry them back.

I know why they are the way that they are BM is a neat freak and picks up after them all the time and dresses them. She still carries them too! Yeah that is not me.