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I almost feel bad for BM ... Almost!

SisterNeko's picture

I wish I had a hidden camera last night so that the next time BM says that SKids don't like to leave her I can play it for her and laugh.

Here is what went down last night. SS7 had to go to the dentist yesterday and they pulled 4 baby teeth out because the adult teeth were coming in. BM was in a panic because she couldn't go - she was out of town for 'work' - and she wanted to reschedule but it really couldn't wait so FDH took him. BM txt'ed FDH and asked/told him that she was going to 'swing by' when she got back and bring SS7 Popsicles. FDH didn't respond so I did, I suggested that Ice cream or sherbet would be better. Then I txt'ed her later to tell her that SS7 couldn't eat until 6 so she should just come then since he will want the ice cream right away and she could bring her hubby (which she did not do). She snapped at FDH because I txt'ed her BEFORE he did (he really doesn't like to talk to her)

Now I don't like BM coming over when I am there alone and of course FDh had to go back to work after the appointment so I was there by myself when BM showed up, but it wasn't as bad (for me) this time. I greeted her at the door and invited her into the living room/dining room. I called to SS7 and just told him he had a visitor - he took his sweet time coming. SS5 came running too. The both dove into the bag that BM had brought with out even saying hi to her. SS5 took off with a sherbet cup and sat at the table with it . I asked Ss7 if he wanted one and he said no so BM handed the rest to me and I put them in the fridge and got ss5 a spoon.

BM was trying to explained to SS7 that she saw the tooth fairy on the way over and she gave her some stuff for him. I showed BM the teeth that came out and then sat down at the table to finish my dinner. SS7 took off for his room and brought his piggy bank for the money, all the while BM still more or less talking to herself. then SS7 took some Pokemon cards and sat by me at the table to open them. I chatted to BM for a few minutes while she stood there pretty much ignored by the sKids then she announced that she was leaving. No one moved!

She repeated "Well, I guess I am going to go now." (with a sigh) a few times, each time with more pout. Finally I said "SS7 your mom is leaving give her a hug". She got two quick hugs from the boys and I walked her to the door. I thanked her for the ice cream and told her to have a good night.

20 mins after she left SS7 looks up from his cards and asked "Did mom leave?"

Now if BM had walked in the door 2 years ago it would have been a holy war to get SS5 to let go of her and stop crying and SS7 would have asked to go with her but today they seem content (if not happy) to stay with me. It funny because just a few months ago BM told FDH that she would take SS5 after the school party because he wouldn't let her leave with out him, I am guessing after seeing that last night that he would have stayed. Come Sunday they will be happy/excited to go to her house - not because they miss her but because she always buys them something when they come over. I told FDH that it was sad and it will only work for a few more years, when they hit their teens the cheap junk she buys them will no longer excite them. She will have to start buying nicer stuff or actually doing things with them.

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BSgoinon's picture

This is pretty much how things would have panned out at our house too. SS takes no interest. I don't feel bad, it's her fault.

SisterNeko's picture

It gets better - today SS7 asked me why BM came over last night. I told him it was to check on him and he just sort and blinked at me and said 'ok'.

I always knew/hoped that the Skids would realize that BM is an idiot but I thought it would take years. SS7 still buys into her stories of world travel and how awesome she is but sooner or later he is going to ask for proof.