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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Fri, 02/07/2020 - 4:05pm

The anxiety of knowing it is our weekend to have SD.  Ugh!  At least we will be getting her later than usual because she has her indoor soccer game tonight and BM is the coach so she at least takes her to the game (which is 45 minutes away).  I was supposed to provide an update on SD and her indoor soccer but I haven't really heard much about it.  DH said that SD told him at first she hated it but then she liked it (that was after night 1).  I guess maybe we will hear more tonight?!?! 

I work until 6 and it is almost 5 now and if everyone leaves the office early I can too but on days/nights/weekends that we have her I would prefer to just sit here alone until 6 :/  She just changes the entire vibe of our home when she is there.  She is so loud and obnoxious and attention hungry and then sulky when she doesn't get her way. DH is always on edge when she is there.  I don't even think he enjoys her visits which just makes him parent from an even bigger guilty place.

Not really a super interesting blog.  I'm just bored and not looking forward to this weekend.  Oh and MIL is insisting on coming over tomorrow too :(  MIL isn't exactly my favorite person b/c she is like the BMs we complain about on here.  One time she got upset that we went to a family thing on DH's dad's side and of course his SM was there (his dad has passed) anyways she made a big deal out of it and told him, "SM isn't your mom, I'm your mom, why are you hanging out with SM and not me".....Good grief!  SM has been in DH's life since he was like 10 GET OVER IT MIL!!!! 

I'm not really religious so lets all just say a little prayer to budda or whoever for all the SM's that have skids this weekend, lol!    

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Submitted by queensway on Fri, 02/07/2020 - 4:12pm

Hope you have a good weekend. You do know that MIL and R U M are the same thing. But sometimes there just isn't enogh rum in this world. Budda!

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Fri, 02/07/2020 - 4:34pm

I don't drink but I will be finding some way to tolerate MIL's visit :/  Maybe I'll be sick with a migraine in bed Wink LOL

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Submitted by Thisisnotus on Fri, 02/07/2020 - 4:16pm

I’m skid free this weekend.....thank the stars. Lol

Good luck to you! I hate how the vibe changes, too. 

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Fri, 02/07/2020 - 4:36pm

It is so different.  It amazes me how a child can completely change an atomosphere into such a negative space like she does.  I know that the reason she is so unlikeable is b/c of how DH and BM treat her but at a certain age these kids know what they are doing too.  Even though DH has improved a bit it still isn't great and BM is the strongest influence on her since she has her the majority of the time Sad

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Submitted by Thisisnotus on Fri, 02/07/2020 - 5:23pm

Same exact thing here! My DH is mostly in a horrible mood when skids here but does his best to fake being in a good mood.....but if I had to deal with his kids the way he does Id be in a bad mood all the time.

problem is he won’t say a word to skids about their shirts behavior....so fakes it and guilt Disney daddy parents them.

he would never admit it out loud but I think he is glad when they leave.

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Mon, 02/10/2020 - 3:19pm

My DH has gotten a little better about addressing SD's crap behavior when it occurs but it doesn't ever change SD's behavior.  It just makes her annoyingly pouty when she actually gets corrected :/  

My DH also would never admit out loud but I can tell he is glad when she is gone.  His whole mood and demeanor change.  One time on the way to drop her off he said, "when we get rid of SD", right in front of her and I looked at him like OMG, and then he quickly said, "I didn't mean it like that" but I know he def did.  She is obnoxious to be around!

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Fri, 02/07/2020 - 4:37pm

Yes, that sounds great!  I don't care what the movie is just make sure it is like 3 hours long! LOL

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Fri, 02/07/2020 - 8:35pm

here and we'll have a painting party.  There's no one under 30 at my house!   Actually I view rehabbing the rental relaxing compared to work where I'm always wracking my brain over some complex issue.

I don't envy you.  I remember those weekends where I'd rather be working late than come home after a long week to three ferals who are obnoxious as hell, viewed me as "that woman" and who were spoiled behind belief.  Theyd cling to daaaddeeeee. Even though the BM and clan were preaching day and night that Chef and TT are the devil.

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Mon, 02/10/2020 - 3:34pm

TT, I would love to come paint.  I know it is weird but I LOVE painting.  That would be a nice break for me for real! ;)  To bad I saw this after the weekend.  I think MIL was more annoying to me than SD.  Which is hard for someone to do!  :/  

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Submitted by Monkeysee on Sat, 02/08/2020 - 3:25am

‘I'm not really religious so lets all just say a little prayer to budda or whoever for all the SM's that have skids this weekend, lol!’

Totally appreciate this! Skids had been in the house all of 3 minutes last night when DH had a go at me. One of the boys made yet another ‘joke’ about how boys are better than girls, and heaven forbid I told skid that wasn’t a funny thing to say. 

DH thinks he’s just being a little boy, and I’m being hard on him. I told DH that ‘jokes’ like that are exactly why we don’t have equality yet, because kids internalize that sh*t & it becomes their belief system. It’s my responsibility to shut it down *every time*, regardless of who’s saying it or how long they’ve been in the house for. He very quickly realized I was right, but I was fuming the entire night we even had to have that convo. Don’t want me to be ‘hard’ on your boys? Then teach them not to be misogynistic little sh*ts yourself. 

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Sat, 02/08/2020 - 11:54pm

old school taste of his own medicine.  Start cracking jokes about how girls are better than boys.  Its all in good fun, right?

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Mon, 02/10/2020 - 3:39pm

Oh man, I hate the defensive, "you're being hard on" "you're picking on" my poor little precious brat crap!  I used to get that all the time from DH until I had enough and I was like, "yeah, you're right, I just hate SD, it isn't that I am trying to teach her or anything, I just hate her, so why would you want to stay married to someone that hates your kid?!?!".....plus the double standard between how he can discipline my ODS vs. how he would freak if I even corrected SD in a nice manner was to much.  Even my ODS could see it.  So DH has improved a little when it comes to SD but I also mostly just try to disengage unless it is something I just can't keep my mouth shut about.  Exactly, you don't want us to be "hard" aka discipline/correct these brats then do it your damn self!  You would think they would be embarassed by their behavior.  I know if my sons every do anything that I find offensive I am appalled and correct them b/c I don't want them thinking that is okay!!!