Privacy: What is it worth to you?
Hi fellow Stepparents,
I have a bit of a radical idea. Tell me what you think. A little history first...
I like and enjoy my SD15 and we get along well. She seems happy when she is visiting us EOW. She is good with my DS5months. But therein lies the tricky part. You never know when she is angry or upset. She never complains. She is extremely hard to read. Instead she goes home to her mom’s and tells these awful lies. More accurately, she repeats these lies her mother manipulates her into saying. Or she steals from you. (She told a child protective worker my DH abused her physically, as an example.) She is incredibly sneaky.
But I am not really angry at her because I know this is all the product of her mother’s pressure.
But I also know I really value privacy. I feel like my home is never a private space. The spy is always just a weekend away. The ex is always one ridiculous email away.
What do you think of me renting an apartment and living there with my son and my DH? SD5 won’t even know I have another space. Neither will the ex wife. Economically I am in a position where I can make this happen. And then during her visits, we can just stay in the current home. She won’t even know the difference. But I will!
I feel desperate for a home where I know my things are safe without locking them up, where I don’t have to worry about lies about abuse, or phone calls to mommy dearest permeating my walls.
ps: DH would go for this.