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Taxes and BM's schemes

Siferra's picture

I have a great one!

Our CO says that we trade years for who gets to claim SS7 on taxes. Totally fair, I get that. But it’s also not like it’s official with the IRS, it’s just what they agreed to do.

Last year was BM’s year to claim SS. She doesn’t work, so she wasn’t going to get anything back for him. We offered to claim him and then give her 50% of the difference. If we were going to get $300 without him and $1300 with, then we’d give her 50% of the difference, or $500. Seemed like a reasonable offer to us.

She asked her dad what she should do, and he said to turn the deal down. We were disappointed, but it wasn’t really our year so nothing to complain about. We found out later her parents claimed SS as BM and SS are living with them. Technically he isn’t their dependent, but I have seen folks get away with a lot bigger tax offenses than that.

Found out today it bit her in the ass. SS has always been on state assisted health insurance. In my state the state coverage is really good, basically free everything. SS has always qualified because BM has no income besides child support (about $300 a month because we have him so often). When BM went to renew SS’s state health insurance she got denied because now her parent’s wages are being considered. She complained that they aren’t taking care of SS, that she is, and only her income should be considered. They countered: if BM’s parents claim SS on their taxes, then their wages will be considered for the purpose of determining state health coverage eligibility.

HA!

I can add SS to my corporate plan without any increased cost to me, so we’re going to do that. But now BM will have to pay copays, etc.

Hilarious.

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TASHA1983's picture

I agree!!! I would NEVER put my sons kid on my medical insurance plan, even if I already had a family plan and it wouldnt cost me any more. His mother is a fucking loser and he is overweight, lazy, and he doesnt even brush his teeth...wtf would I/you want to add him and then potentially get stuck with having to foot the bills too???!!! Not worth it girl...DONT PUT HIM ON YOUR PLAN!!!! THEIR KID...THEIR PROBLEM...NOT YOURS!!!
The only people that will be on my med ins will be myself, my son, and my bf (when we get married)...if that means my bf has to get a plan just for skid so be it IDFC!!!!

Siferra's picture

To clarify, I cover healthcare costs for the family as part of my contribution to the house. We keep separate finances, but DH takes the mortgage, electricity, home repair, and cell phones while I take the healthcare bills & insurance, groceries, and credit card payments. Even if SS ends up costing me in the long run it's part of my portion of the family expenses.

My company is WAY better than DH's, which is how I got the healthcare costs to start. And while I could push back and refuse to cover SS, then it's likely DH would ask me to start contributing to my share of the mortgage and electricity. It would be a lot of number crunching to end up in about the same place.

TASHA1983's picture

If you do put him on just be careful and keep your guard up against skid/bm schemes and ways they could take advantage of you & fuck you over in regards to paying their part.... Wink

stepmom22boys's picture

I added steps to my dental insurance. Guess who gets stuck with dental bills turned over to collection when BM takes him to the dentist? Not only does she walk out without paying the co-pay, but she also changes the address to hers before the appointment so I don't get the bills. Her plan will not work next time as I blocked her from making any changes...she is going to be pissed the next time she takes them to the dentist... Biggrin

I hope you have better luck!

Siferra's picture

Yikes!

It might sound naive, and it could come to bite me later, but our BM isn't THAT bad. Worse case scenario I could go to her parents who sided with my DH about the divorce. BM's mom even once said to my DH "I completely understand why you left BM and we're all shocked you stayed as long as you did..."

stepmisery's picture

Wow that's finally some divine justice on these people who try to squeeze all they can out of the system and not play by the rules. Just hilarious.

As for that insurance, yeah, just be prepared for BM to NOT pay the co-pay and since you have the insurance you will end up being the responsible party. Really really think about this, because you will have to pay the bills and recover from BM or suffer the consequences on your own credit.

Siferra's picture

Thanks for the warning notes Smile

I am prepared to cover the costs if I need to. Come to think of it though, he's technically not a dependent of mine because BM technically has primary custody. He probably won't be eligible to be covered by me unless we change that...

I wonder what DH and BM plan to do about that...