SD19 refused to leave her room
I posted quite a bit about sulky (likely bipolar) SD19. For years, she has been getting slowly worse. She avoids any new challenges, such as learning to drive, getting a job, and making new friends. After thanksgiving 2022 she stopped visiting us, which was a relief. She now lives full time at BM's, and DH calls her to say hi every evening, and check in with her.
DH was on the phone last night, and as usual, SD19 was terse, annoyed, and angry sounding. He asked what she did that day. She said "NOTHING." He asked what she busy doing now (you can hear her clacking away on a keyboard in the background) and she says " Watching You Tube, or Playing games on the computer."
Well SD let it slip that she got her waist-length ratty hair cut, and she sends DH a pic of her hair in a very short boy-cut. It looks cute on her, and we tell her so. The next day she says that she has decided she made a huge mistake, and HATES her haircut. She says she won't leave her room until it grows out. We thought she was kidding.
The next night DH calls her, and the next 3 nights after that. Every time, her sister (SD17) says that SD19 is holed up in her room, and has taken the family computer into her room and never stops using it. DH calls SD19 and confirms that she is eating dinner in her room again. He says "Wait, were you SERIOUS when you said you weren't leaving your room until your hair grows out?" She says through clenched teeth "Yes."
What does DH say? "Oh. Okay. Well, good talk. Bye."
On one hand, I love that he is not getting sucked into her drama. On the other hand, does he really think she will get better if neither of her parents does anything to get her some mental health assistance?