SD is giving up on life
So, my SD19 has been living at her BMs house and not visiting us since the Thanksgiving yelling match. She still doesn't have a drivers license or a job. Last night she opened up a bit to DH, which is rare. She demanded to be taken off speaker phone becuase she didn't want me to hear. He took her off speaker, but DH keeps his phone volume up so loud I can hear the other person across the room. LOL. Besides, he was going to tell me anyway, because I am his wife. DuH.
Well, she says she is seeing a therapist to try to get a diagnosis of "agoraphobic" so she doesn't have to work. Or in her words "So people will believe me when I say I can't do something because its too stressful." Hmmm. I'm happy she is seeking help. I hope that therapist is smart enough to see that she is seeking a particular diagnosis, and that they try to get to the bottom of WHY she doesn't want to leave the house. Its really more of a symptom than a disease in itself.
Dh's viewpoint was " Well, I've prepared her the best I can. Now she is an adult and needs to have some the sharp edges knocked off of her by life. Its out of my hands." I think this is the healthiest thing he has said about his kids in a long time. I'm glad he isn't getting overly involved in her life at this point.
It proves my theory though - she is giving up on life and hoping to have lifelong care by someone who will support her financially. I'm glad that is BM and not us.