Disengaging fully - May the odds be ever in my favor
I started therapy with a new therapist today, regarding problems with SD that DH willfully ignores, She recommended that I disengage fully on the topic of SD18 going to family therapy. SD and DH can't do anything on this front, without constant reminders from me.
So, I am disengaging and letting the hunger games begin. Me and the cat will have to rely on eachother for the next few weeks. She and I both retreat to a quiet bedroom when the skids come over. I am too proud to hide under the comforter like she does, though. Hehe.
I wonder if I have to disengage just from DH, or if I have to disengage from SD. ( I already pretty much ignore her rudeness.) I would like to just be blunt with SD. SD's mood better improve for dinner, or her rude comments will be met with "Please have some respect for the people who work hard to buy your food and pay for the roof over your head." If that hurts her feelings then boo hoo. Sorry. I am so done tippy toeing around her so she doesn't shatter into a million pieces, like her dad thinks she will.
What do you think? Should I only disengage from DH, or should I also keep biting my tongue and fading into the background when it comes to SD's rudeness.