So I was talking to my god-sister yesterday...she came to my house to have "a drink" . She's been around for ages, and is ALWAYS at my house, so she's seen everything that goes on...(well not EVERYTHING...) but she comes over when we have something at the house, and that's usually when MIL is at the house...

Well MIL came over to see DH as she hasn't seen him in weeks and weeks, so she was "stopping by"...

I was at the table cutting out paper as I was hand making invitations for DS's birthday cards...I LOVE this kind of stuff and am thankful for the little time I have to do it...So anyway...I'm cutting with one hand...drinking with the other, lol...and MIL passes by to see what I'm doing...She picks up one of the invites (and I mean they are GORGEOUS and VERY high quality)and she just says, "Humph...When I was planning parties, if it didn't come in a package, it wasn't happening"...Then she literally TOSSED it back on the table...and walked away...My god sister put her hand over mine because I swear before GOD I was about to lay that bish OUT!

I drained my glass and got up...

When I came back, my god sister told me some stuff she's been noticing that I had to take notice of...I swear, if I didn't have her there...It would have been ALL BAD...

Basically, she said that she can tell and has always noticed that MIL is jealous of me. She's noticed all of the stuff she's been doing and saying, and she truly believes it's because she's jealous and envious...

She said that as a woman, MIL looks at all that I've accomplished and it's eating her up...She's failed at 3 marriages...still out there looking for a man...Never had the backbone in life that I have, never had a great career, family, and husband...Nothing to show for herself...Can't take credit for DH becoming a great man and father because DH's grandmother raised him, and SIL the child she DID raise is a clusterphuck...

She brought up a perfect example. Not long ago, we got hardwoods installed in our house...GORGEOUS dark stained, handscraped, wide plank hardwoods...When people come into my house now, they ALWAYS comment on the floors...They're stunning...When MIL saw them for the first time, she said nothing...didn't even acknowledge them...Heck even when we bought our house she didn't say anything positive...We moved from a house that was barely 1000 sq. feet to one that is 4000...When she first walked in, she just looked around...Conversely, when my mom first walked in, she cried...She literally went from room to room crying she was so happy for us...(DH and I work HARD and are very thankful for what we have)...

All of these happened when my god sister was over...It never occurred to me that the woman was envious or jealous...I just thought she was weird...and a bish...

After MIL left, DH came downstairs. He said he came down to "see my face"...Apparently, MIL said something sideways to him regarding the invites, and knew if she said something to him, she said something to me...So he wanted to see if I had on my "I'm about to cut that bish" face...and of course...I DID...

So my god-sister talked to DH as I was too busy fuming...She was VERY diplomatic in her approach, and asked him if he thought MIL was jealous of me. She said why she thought that, outlined MIL's poor life choices, etc...DH thought for a few seconds, then said..."Yup...I can see that..." I was like WTF? DH went on to say that he doesn't know what to do about it, but he's aware of it, and told us about some other mean and sideways comments that she's made regarding me...He said he didn't know how to place them other than just saying , "She's a trip", but now he says he can see what my god sister was saying...He said he can see why she's tried to make an issue with SD...stuff that doesn't even exist or trying to make me be something that SHE couldn't be considering she was a step mother also (twice over)...

My God sister (the good Christian woman that she is) advised us to pray for her. To make her feel loved, and to show her compassion, as it's obvious that she's miserable...She encouraged DH to say things to her to make her feel like she's a good mother...(DH said he'd have to work on that...)

I really don't know what to feel right now...1/2 of me says I don't want her coming around us if I have to feel "some way" about my house, job, accomplishments...Like I can't be happy and thankful about what I have when she's around...I don't brag at all, but if just walking in my house causes you problems, I don't know what to tell you...Then the other 1/2...welp...there is no other half...I just feel like "Eff her"

Thanksgiving isn't looking to appealing now...