Skids (MIA) and exwife still after money and how to hide it from her spouse
Last night hubby told me he lost it with his kids with ex few weeks ago. He told off ss21.5 how he lacked maturity for someone in university and he needed to do better.
then his eldest child (sd23.5) who had graduated over a year ago and been working her graduate uni job for 9 months now and she and her sister cut off contact with hubby, out of the blue decided to call hubby and ask the house she in living in (which hubby bought after the divorce), Who’s name is it in? She asked this 1.5 yrs ago when she re-initiated contact after 5+ years of disappearing and hubby said it has always been in just hubbys name as he applied for the loan to buy it.
hubby lost it with her because skids have ignored and abandoned him unless they need favours or money, then hubby had a stressful day at work and snapped at sd that he isn’t even dead yet and she and her mum are still trying to steal and grab his assets or property.
apparently exwife (who has abandoned sd23.5), asked sd to contact her dad and remind him they had an agreement after the divorce that home was hers and for her kids to live in. After the divorce she played the poor pity me card well, refused to get a job and be responsible for her kids when there was alimony etc to grab from hubby for free. Hubby felt sorry his kids crammed into a 2 bedroom home with exwifes dad so he bought a home that the kids could reside in with their mum for privacy. Exwife took this to mean that property belongs solely to her and no one else
she actually thinks that home is in her (exwifes name), despite hubby buying it after the divorce and also hubby getting the loan... yeah go figure how a uni graduate still thinks that home was ever in her mums name. Well exwife still believes she is dying from her imaginary illness and wants to make sure she hides her asses from her current hubby and it goes solely to her kids but benefit from her current husband providing for everything . Talk about team player!!
hubby feels thats property he owns so whether he owned or purchased it before marrying me, as we have kids together that our kids are free to inherit anything he owns just like his elder 3
hubby said sd23.5 and her 14.5 yr old sister were crying because ever since they met me and our kids (their half sibling) and told their mum, she basically left them but somehow they still are compelled to follow what their mum and stepdad says and they feel so lonely, they allow and put themselves in that situation and now want to play the poor pity me card. Before that it was we are in contact with our mum (story changes continually)
well hun, you aren’t pleasant to begin with and you aren’t pleasant to be around and continually talk about your mum and stepdad all the time rant about them on meets, i should not be expected to tolerate that.
Last night me and hubby were discussing plans about buying a home in my country, he said if we can wait another 3-4 years we can get one in the budget and suburb we like with no loan required as i would have graduated university and be working then, but i told him i’m not waiting longer for him to subsidise his adult kids laziness. They should be launching and being financially responsible for themselves and that isn’t happening currently and will they be made to or is hubby gonna be an atm permanently?
he told me about how he snapped at his kids and the girls crying when hubby told them off. So here i am with hubby jointly buying a home in my country (skids can’t touch because its solely in our names) meaning if hubby dies then i become sole owner. His kids already have entitlement to an estate in their country which i said if we bought a home in my country, our kids don’t need to claim anything from their dads country as what we have in my country is just under what his 3 will inherit in their dads estate back in their country, so hubby would need to do a will that any property in australia remains for our kids we have together since i am pumping alot of money to buy too and even hubbys share, well what estate he has in his country matches that if not more so we will be keeping it separate and his will can state that
also i have my parents estate that i am getting and i sure don’t want if something happens to me that skids get it viamy husband so we really need a will where if something happens to me, any assets of mine or that i inherit whilst my kids are minors still remain with my kids but hubby handles the management but ensures its for our kids- this is just tricky
its just so disgusting to me that the exwife wants to hide assets from her current hubby. She wants assets and money but hide everything from her hubby but enjoy the benefits of marital assets he buys Since she hasn’t worked in 25+ years.
i told hubby when we buy our home a shitstorm will ensue with skids and exwife because our home will be in an amazing suburb and they will play the poor me pity me card from a third world country card
the only reason we can and will be able to afford that home is because its my country where standards of living are higher and salaries are higher too and i’m contriButing to it and thats why we can afford it but exwife and skids won’t see that
hubby said well its not their business to get involved in marital property we buy and exwife is fuming hubby rose up the corporate ladder since he divorced her because hubbys way of life is luxurious even though he lives well below his means.
so to those with spouses who have vindictive exwives hell bent on screwing them for maximum cs even when they’re kids are adults and grown up, those focussed on hiding assets or cut family members out etc, whats my best way of protecting this financial purchase of our home (skids are foreigners and will never reside in my country) their life is overseas.
i am ok with hubby and me being joint owners but my country automatically says if 1 spouse dies the other owner becomes full owner. Hubby is much older than me so likely would die before , So does this mean we need a will done that if i did die before hubby, that this marital home in my county goes to the kids of our marriage because his kids will already inherit an estate in his country which will will equate to our home in my country. So its a fair split. No way should his 3 kids inherit the share of money i contribute to this home
hubby also said whilst there is a large age gap between our minor kids and his eldest 3 with ex (2 who are adults) that any property bought in my country hubby feels its easier to just put in my name and avoid the crap with his kids because the money he contributes to our home will be the same amount ir slightly under of all the assets he owns in his country
also i will inherit my dads estate (childhood family home along with my brother), but i intend to buy my brother out of his share, i do not want skids benefiting off this so i just want advice for those who dealt with this previously to protect myself.
i just feel like hubby is getting suckered back into skids shenanigans that there was a miscommunication and they conveniently forgot and hubby right now is making an excuse for us to not buy a home together which there are a few we can get right now and i will be putting a large portion towards from my mothers estate that I inherited from her death several years ago. Buying a home in our country now whilst we are sorting out hubbys visa application means it can only be in my name- hubby said this is ok because the change over fee is so minor anyways to add on a spouse as co-owner later down the track but hubby trusts rhat as we are husband and wife me finishing my studies and working after is to help supoort our household,
the signs are just there skids and exwife tying to oust us of things they believe belong to them and hubby snapped that he isn’t dead and they have ignored him and then contact him just to check if their mum co-owns property she never bought in the first place??