I think hubby just told me he resents me and having kids with me (In disguise)
I left the house today with our toddlers for a few hours, to do some errands and baby supplies etc. Hubby acts so responsible messaging me about 2 hours in asking where i went because its his duty as husband to care for me and our security.
i called him a hypocrite and if he really cared abour our safety, security and happiness, for starters he would have fed the toddlers 2 nights ago when they were under his watch, he would have stepped up a long time ago and he would never allow us to be trampled over by skids and exwife
hubby tells me he loves me without question that we are 1 family and he’s still in fantasy land saying skids love me and our 2 kids. I called bullshit on it saying your own son looks at the ceiling and floor or his phoen when we are at home to avoid acknowledging us, he says hi to the wall and not at us (he reminds you we are strangers to him), sd’s rant about bio mum and stepdad the moment they are with us and report the same shit over to put me in my place that i am way below. We are not and never will be family because the fact is they have never and continue to not want anything to do with us.
hubby says he loves me and shows me a screenshot of his pension savings for retirement, he’s allocated 100% to me because he says we have 2 young kids and if he were to die in next few years our 2 Are in primary school while his are all adults. But heres the catch, hubby tells me he is in sin with god by doing this because he is knowingly not allocating readily cash money to his eldest 3 but they have his estate and properties which surpass the value of his pension money (way above), they have 1 million cash money their mum stole from hubbys bank account during divorce and just before when she coaxed hubby into transferring his savings to her for incidentals and bills she called it even though she never paid a bill in her life at that point.
so there we go, my husband basically still acknowledges that he has a financial responsibility to continue child support to 2 adult kids with ex indefinitely and no doubt the youngest in a few yrs but ours never get that benefit...
i felt what he said to me to paint him in a positive light just backfired because he told me the truth that he is in sin not providing readily cash for them should he die from his pension savings which are separate to other savings he has diversified over the years
what he fails to acknowledge is if something happened to him now, i have 2 toddlers, his 2 adults are capable of working now (1 actually has a fulltime job even) they can sell off assets from his estate, they even get a lump sum cash amount from his savings... but he acknowledges their mum needs to pull her weight and take responsibility she took a shitload of cash for him and be responsible too for her kids except she barely is..
he told me he was wrong to marry me and have kids with me when he should think about retirement and having a meaningful life closer to god before he dies. But he loves us unquestioningly but he admitted its wrong we exist...
he’s hoping all the above just magically makes things right... i needed a breather today but i feel i’m gaining clarity. He flies out overseas for work tomorrow morning... he’s trying to play daddy from heaven now. But i aint buying this bs because he’s just trying to cover his arse