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Dealing with DH and SS4 and BM

Sexybaby's picture

I hate that I that have to put SS4 in a bubble over here like BM does. I have to tell my BSs to let him have everything so SS4 won't get mad. If SS4 gets hurt BM gets mad and blames my DH why you were not watching him. Sometimes its not my BSs fault its SS4 just being a kid. BM has him in a big bubble they don't go outside BM gets mad at SS4's brother so SS4 can get what he wants or not get into trouble. BM lets him do whatever he wants whenever he wants. Sometimes I feel that I have to leave my house just SS4 won't get hurt or get mad. But I think this time when we picked up SS4 BM told him something or made him feel different being with his dad. SS4 got mad at my DH over a soda because DH said no, so SS4 got pissed and said " I want to go back to my moms give my your phone daddy so you can call her to pick me up" But last time we had him the last two weeks in June he was singing a different tune, SS4 was happy being here with us for those two weeks. Now this time SS4 has a negative attitude about being here. I think BM did not like that SS4 had a good time with us, so this time BM did something to SS4 or made him feel bad about visiting us.

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VioletsareBlue's picture

Why do you have to do it? I wouldn't do it. They get treated just like anyone else. They have to suck it up and deal. Don't let them or your DH manipulate you.

Willow2010's picture

I have to tell my BSs to let him have everything so SS4 won't get mad
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There would be no chance in hell I would do this. Do you think this is normal? Most step situations are not normal, but this goes beyond.

Sexybaby's picture

Thank you for your support. No I have not done that to encourage it but I'm just about to lose it. I still put down the law over here and with my own children. DH did talk to BM and she says she has her own ways to discipline him but I don't think she follows through. Also me and my DH are working at being on the same page with all the kids its hard work.