I don't want to deal with my in-laws and SD when I give birth
My navy husband is currently in middle of the ocean. I'm home with our toddler and I have a month and a half until I give birth. My husband will be home in June, unless he gets his Covid vaccine then he will visit in home in the spring to meet the baby.
Before my husband left on his boat the in laws were giving him greif about how I wasn't involving them enough with our daughter and this pregnancy. My in law cause me nothing but stress and I'm very pregnant so I'm not going to do anything I don't want to do. I would rather be stuck at home alone than invite them over only to have them expect to be catered to. The last thing I need now is to host guests. They have never been helpful so why would it be any different now.
They have been talking to BM more than me lately and trying to play us off each other like it's a competition. I don't care how much they talk to BM or SD12. I don't bother trying to talk to SD anymore.
I know I can't ice them out forever, I really don't want to deal with them when I give birth. My husband won't be home to play defense and he has told them I will let them come meet the baby once I'm home and settled. They never listen to him so I know they will be in their cars on the way to my house as soon as they find out I'm in labor so I'm not planning to tell them. The whole clan came right as I went into labor last pregnancy and wouldn't leave, it was a stressful mess. They just took over the house, made a mess, slept in my bed, ate all our food, gave me no privacy while I tried to breastfeed and didn't help at all. I think I have PTSD from it, not joking.
I have no desire to go through that again and I don't trust them to take care of my toddler. My mom will be staying to help me.
I just don't want them or SD to come at all while my husband isn't home. I wonder what the fallout will be if I don't let them come meet the baby... Maybe I can blame post partum depression or something. I think my husband would get over not inviting his family but excluding SD is a different story, and his family would be bringing her.