DH has more money than brains
I know I'm being petty but my husband is so annoying.
We have 2 little kids, that means 2 car seats.
We see SD14 sporadically, and when we do it's only when my SIL picks her up. SD14 only agrees to see us when SIL tags along.
My husband goes from one day complaining about how much kids cost to spending over $600 on a 2nd set of car seats that are narrower... So SD can be more comfortable in the car.
Um what? I can't even remember the last time we had all of us in one car... Because if SIL is there (WHICH SHE ALWAYS IS) then we need to take 2 vehicles. Usually it's me and our kids in my car and DH, SD and SIL in the other. Which is fine. Even if SIL wasn't there it wouldn't be bad to take 2 vehicles so they could have some one on one time.
But no, my husband has to spend a bunch of money on extra car seats. And the kicker is he wants to have them on one side and in the middle to keep a spot open for SD14. Do you know how hard it is strapping a baby or toddler in the middle? If you have never done it, it's a pain. He is inconveniencing me EVERY DAY for the chance of MAYBE having the chance to make SD14 more comfortable IF she ever rides in the car.
You know what makes more sense? Putting the car seats on either side and moving them if we have SD. Or, here's a brilliant idea that costs nothing extra... Take 2 vehicles...
Oh also he's been telling all our friends about his purchase and plans so they all think he's an amazing thoughtful dad. He spend a lot of money for pats on the back and the main outcome is an inconvenience to me and our kids.B
TW we currently have no idea when we'll see SD next.
Placing bets now... I don't think SD will ever ride in that seat.
Our youngest starts daycare this month, I betcha he won't have his half of the fee. And he'll get right back to whining that kids are so expensive.
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I'd tell him he's welcome to
I'd tell him he's welcome to put the new car seats any way he wants in his car. The seats in my car are staying the same. If SD ever graces herself with her presence, and we are all riding in one car, we can use his. (And he can put the child in the middle seat.)
As to the whining about daycare cost, I'd be tempted to say that daycare is a necessity. Extra car seats were an unneeded splurge. If you splurge you need to be sure your necessities (aka daycare) are paid first. Necessity before splurge is what a rational parent does.
Move the car seat to the side position.
Move the car seat to the side position. If SD does ever ride in the car, DH can move it back to the middle. There is no reason you should be inconvenienced every day!
I would absolutely not change
I would absolutely not change the carseats in my car. DH can put them in his car if he wants. He doesn't get to decide how you arrange carseats in your daily driver. If he doesn't want to put them in his car, he can return them.
Also, if he doesn't have enough money left over to pay for daycare after buying unnecessary carseats, he doesn't have much money, which makes it kind of scary if he has more money than brains.
How old are your little ones?
How old are your little ones? Old enought to sit themselves in their seats? We put DD3's seat in the centre as it's the best position for sun protection and easier for me to pass things to her in the back when we go on long drives. As soon as I was able to I taught her to climb in and put the straps on, then I lean over and clip her in place. Just today she pretended to be a baby and asked me to carry her in. First time in over a year that I've had to physicallly lift her into her seat and it almost killed me!
But yeah, regarding your DH...definitely agree with you but unfortunately all the money in the world can't buy common sense...
The toddler isn't 2 yet so
The toddler isn't 2 yet so for either one it's a pain. Loading and strapping in the middle one is going to be his job every time.
Any way you can take the
Any way you can take the seats back for a refund?
This. A $600 unplanned
This. A $600 unplanned completely not needed purchase is rediculous. You are MARRIED and the seats are for your SHARED children. This is not a purchase he should have made without discussing it with you - particularly if they are to be installed in YOUR car.
Don't give him the "option" of being short on necessary expenses later in the month. That is completely unacceptable. Further - it sounds like being short happens far more than it should. That is not something I would be ok with (given his irresponsible spending habits). Deal breaker for me.
What an idiot. I would take
What an idiot. I would take those right back to where he purchased them.
Take the seats right back to
Take the seats right back to the shop and tell your DuH that you'll cross the bridge of SD's seating when you come to it.
I really don't like your
I really don't like your husband at all. I'm shaking my head and feeling very angry. For all the awful stephell I have put up with my husband never did me or our kids like this. I think and hope my husband realized quickly that I'm his forever wife and a far better life partner than BM ever was so he put me and our marriage first. He even made AdultSkid move out. I'm in shock about that. I'm so lucky.