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Madea movies

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Submitted by secret on Tue, 04/16/2019 - 1:17pm

Watched a few Madea movies in the past few weeks...

Gotta admit, she sure puts Disney Dad's back in their place when dealing not only with bratty kids' disrespectful behaviour, but also cu#ty entitled ex-wives...

Dh picked up on the similarities and commented on how much of a wuss the Dad was when it came to disciplining his disrespectful b!tch of a daughter and in putting up with the ex's BS...

Seems each movie has a theme common to Disney parents and/or step issues.

Funny stuff!

Oppositional Defiance Disorder

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Submitted by secret on Tue, 04/16/2019 - 12:55pm

Looking for information on the above disorder.

I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around it... from everything I've read, it seems that it's essentially a "label" for a brat.

yes, he's active. he's hyper. He has difficulty remembering rules, consequences, does really stupid things, is destructive... purposely annoying and everything else on the list for ODD characteristics...

Example of typical idiotic male thought pattern

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Submitted by secret on Fri, 11/02/2018 - 6:49am

Ss5 had a meltdown last night...nothing major...dh asked him ti get the garbage can from the upper bathroom...ss said no thank you. Dh rephrased... Ss said no. Dh said you don't say no when i...blah blah song and dance... Then ss just did the crap he dies around his mom... Dh did really well handling it, i didn't step in.

Afterwards, ss is back to his normal self. Too much candy the night before and for lunxh, i figure, aling with a late night and lack of sleep....Halloween amd BM. Anyway...

Adhd vs parenting fail

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Submitted by secret on Sat, 10/27/2018 - 2:32pm

So, first thing first... Dh and bm are now on a wierd schedule, have been for a while, seems to be ok... Issue is, ss has been having some minor behavior issues. Nothing huge... As far as I'm concerned, it's all normal boundary pushing crap.

Ss saw a "specialist", and now adhd is being tossed around.

It's not so much that i don't believe in adhd, i just have a lot of skepticism for diagnostics...because i think that a good chunk of adhd diagnoses are misidentified, they should rather be called "parenting fails".

Summer update

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Submitted by secret on Thu, 08/30/2018 - 5:17pm

Been a while... 

My oldest turned 16 today. He's been working 2 jobs all summer - part time at a coffee shop and part time at an auto body shop owned 50% by my mother's spouse. He took his g1 driver's test this afternoon...  Dunno if he passed yet, he's not back yet. 

My middle one worked a few weekends during the summer as a ticket booth girl at a local fair...  She's really stepped up in the responsible way and is going to Toronto this weekend for a concert with my SIL. 

Quick update and BM ridiculousness

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Submitted by secret on Fri, 05/25/2018 - 8:00am

Nothing much going on in my world.

Kids are doing well, all 4 of them. Nothing special - same old same old...

I recently started a new job - promotion, raise, longer house... different crap to deal with...boring AF.

BM will apparently be "graduating" next month - which means she will no longer be getting free money for living expenses.

Meaning she will no longer have daycare paid for.

Meaning I fully expect her to stick her hand out to DH for him to pay for a portion, if not all, of daycare.

Blending a family

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Submitted by secret on Wed, 05/09/2018 - 12:11pm

I see it a lot, and I really don't get it.

Blending a family - NO.

Blending Husband & Wife, yes. (or H&H / W/W, whatever.) The kids are just part of the baggage, just like finances, property, pets - they are an extra that needs to be accounted for, but they are not on the same level as the heads of household, and should not, ever, have the same decision making power. Like a pet, decisions are made considering what's best for them, but you don't ask permission from a dog - you don't ask permission from a child.

My stupid neighbours

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Submitted by secret on Mon, 05/07/2018 - 10:39am

Spin off BrightFuture's post perhaps...

I live in an older upper middle class part of town. My home is worth about half a mil.

My neighbours - "single mom" of 6 kids - and I use the term loosely, because there's always one or the other of the babydaddies coming to get one or more of the kids. I'm sorry, but if dad's in the picture for 50/50, don't pretend like you're the sole single parent of this child. You're a mom. And single.

Anyway...

I let dh think SS went to bed on his own but I feel guilty

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Submitted by secret on Mon, 02/26/2018 - 12:57pm

This weekend, we had guests over for supper one night.

The kids were fed first... and DH, our guests and I were out in the garage, having a smoke waiting for the kids to finish.

ss didn't finish all his supper. No biggie... it's generally left on the counter, and he'll finish it eventually, because predictably, about 15-20 minutes, even though he "finishes" his meal, he's really just done with THAT food, yet wants other stuff to eat. DH has been awesome at making ss eat his leftovers when ss gets hungry again after the meal, so it's not really been an issue in a while.

OT - teen girls' bedroom

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Submitted by secret on Tue, 02/13/2018 - 7:24am

I've been slowly redecorating my daughters' room for the last little while...

I had painted it blues and purples last year, and they've grown tired of it. I agree though, it's a bit childish for them... it's what they wanted at the time, it's just not "cool" anymore.

Anyway, I've already re-painted the walls white.

I've bought a twin bed for my oldest girl - she had a queen bed my youngest had a twin bed... and with the dressers, vanity and armoire in the room, it was a wee bit cramped.... so now they both have twin beds.

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