I have only met her face to face once. In the mall when SO and I had the kids out running errands, at that time she extended a hand, smiled, introduced herself and expressed that it was a pleasure to meet me. That was six months ago.

Yesterday the security guys at the front gate turned her away twice informing her she was not an authorized visitor to my neighborhood. One visit was at midnight, another at 10am. The third visit they had HCSO issue her a tresspass warning that she was not to return due to harrassment and a refusal to follow the rules of the HOA that runs this community. The HOA president did call me first, I advised I do not want the woman allowed access to come harrass me at my home and they took it from there as she was apparently cursing at the guards since they would not let her in. Even if she had gotten in I doubt she could have found me. There are hundreds of houses in this community and my car is always parked in my garage.

Her arguement? Since the kids are supposed to have 'equal' living arrangements at their mother and fathers, she wanted a gate pass so she could bring them to our community pool during the weeks she had them, that it was only fair since they could use it on their dads weeks that they be able to use it on hers. Reality is fast slipping from this woman's grasp.

Her barrage of text messages to my SO have slowed down, no longer coming in at almost 200 in two hours, it is more like 100 per day. He was all kinds of irritated until I reminded him there was a little red button on his phone that would shut it off so he did not have to deal with it buzzing. The texts? They advise she will be sueing him for ruining her credit, since apparently now that she has to pay CS she can not afford to pay her bills. The next will state that since he can not afford to pay for his kids she will be keeping them full time, that 'the law' states that fathers have to pay to see their kids. She called HCSO and had them do a "Wellfare" check on my house, and on SO's at the same time. The sheriff's office seems to comprehend that she is not acting in a mature or responsible manner.

Yme, I did take your advice I have call numbers, event numbers and in the case of the tresspass warning the case number for the events. SO also printed out all of the text messages she has sent him. I also had the skids delete my phone numbers from their cell phones. I do not need this woman getting ahold of my phone numbers and calling me!

Snarky, I am taking your advice as well. Will be having my attorney cert mail her a letter stating no contact ever or I will pursue an RO for harassment. Considering the HOA already tresspassed her from the community can be nothing but a help should I have to attain a RO. I am having the attoreny write it because I doubt a letter from me starting off "Dear Dumbass" would hold up in court and at this point I am irked enough to write a letter like that.

SO is dreading taking them back to her house this evening. I advised him call the HCSO and ask for a deputy to stand by at the drop off so she can't start anything and he is seriously considering it. He is also fairly sure that next Sunday there will be drama since her text messages are resounding in their theme of since he isn't paying she will not let him see them. He will be calling his attorney Monday morning to see what if anything can be done.

What slays me is this: She hasn't had to pay a dime yet. According to the attorney it takes about 4 weeks to set up a payroll deduction through the state, so she isn't out a penny yet. If she is this bad now at the thought of having to pay, I can only imagine how bad it is going to be when she gets the first paycheck that a deduction has been taken out of.