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Thaks so much for the last blog replies....new topic

Sassy's picture

I usually use this site just to vent so my poor DH doesn't have to hear all the garbage on my mind when he is already in the middle of it. I try sometimes to read all the updated stuff and put in my two cents if I think it will help. You are all great for listening and I love to read the responses. It is really good for me to get another perspective on things sometimes. After all, we can't be right all the time. I just told SS16 he is supposed to be at his mom's for week in August and straight off the bat he said he wasn't going and idn't want to. Usually I would have told her, hey, SS16 and SS18 don't want to go, but this time I am leaving it up to them. I think they need to stand up for themselves and it will do them a world of good to see she won't fall apart without them. I am certain she will try to guilt them into it, but if she does, they will know in the end it was a mistake. SS16 told me all she and her hubby do is work when the kids are there and they get stuck in the house all da doing nothing. Bummer. If it is that important to them, I think this is a geat time to teach them to stand up to her. I told SS16 he doesn't have to go if he doesn't want to but he needs to let her know. Hopefully she won't be too hard on him.

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Sia's picture

when you posted your other blog....but why is an 18yo still going on visitation?

I do agree though, they need to grow a backbone and tell her themselves.

Sassy's picture

The whole visitation thing is wierd to me anyway. I think once they hit a certain age or maturity level, they shoud decide when and where they want to be as long as they aren't playing anyone. He is 18 today and we will ceratinly back them both up if they don't want to go see their mom at her place. She still has a house here which they visit on the weekends, but when she wants them to go to her and her hubbys house in another county, bith older ones are like "no way!" But, it does need to be up to them. In past times I have sent her a text saying SS16 and SS18 don't want to go or something like that just to let her get over it before she talked to them, but i think it's time they do it. I feel bad though, like I'm feeding them to the wolves.

"A parents job is to eat as much sh*t as we have to so that the children do not."