Update on alienated SS living with us
So DH recently bought tickets for SS's girlfriend to visit us here.
He hoped that it would maybe extend an olive branch to SS.
Well three days before the flight, SS's girlfriend breaks up with him. Which logically speaking was the only conclusion.
And SS has shown all his anger at DH as expected.
I'm trying to separate myself and my children from this conflict. But I can see that they're confused by someone who is living in our basement apartment who they've been told is their brother who won't even be around us.
I talked to DH about SS going to community college instead. We did some research and community colleges in California and New York don't require a GED but the programs are really limited.
But SS has refused to attend a community college because he thinks they're worse and has basically said it's on DH to get him into a "real" university.
He's in a program to get his GED and do the SATs after. But we have no idea how his studies are even going because he won't tell my DH anything. And we just hear music blaring most of the day and night from the basement.
DH attended a few therapy sessions by himself because SS is still refusing to go.
I'm hoping it'll help DH at least because he's been suffering from a lot of guilt. I'm worried for him.
One positive bit of news is that my father-in-law has seemed to have started talking to SS and will be teaching him how to drive. Just a little until SS get his learner's permit.
At least this way, SS will go out of the house.
Just feeling emotionally drained.