DH and I have been married almost 4 years and together 6. In October, SK13 moved in with us. In February, SK10 moved in with us. BM got tired of hearing them say that they wanted to live with us, so now we have full custody. BM was committed to a pysch ward last summer and it seems that me calling her out in an email about all her crap and lack of parenting was just what we needed to get the SK's out of her custody! BM now has boys EOW. SK's are doing great with us, but the trouble comes a few days before going to BM's and usually a day after coming back. SK's got home last night and were so quiet. Apparenlty, BM and SD got into a huge fight Saturday night and SD took off. SK13 was outside and when SD took off, his car threw up a bunch of rocks and pelted SK13. Of course BM was too concerned with herself to stand up for her son. Then SK10 tells me he spent the whole weekend at a friends house. Lucky for him, I guess.

BM is remarried and has a DD4 with new H. BM claims to not be able to work due to her "mental illness." Excuses are second nature to her. SK's SD works, but doesn't make much and has to pay CS to his ex for two kids (one isn't even his). So, of course when they found out that even though we said we didn't want CS (would have prevented her from giving us custody if she knew she's have to pay CS), turns out the courts mandate it. So, we agreed to a lesser amount and have yet to receive a dime. Funny thing is, when DH was laid off 3 years ago, BM threw an absolute fit when she didn't receive her full amount for a few months (we got caught up right away). Now she owes us. DH and I have successful careers, so we're okay without the $, but man do I love knowing she owes us $.

I want to call her out on the CS, but am keeping my mouth shut for another month. If we don't receive any CS by the end of May, we'll turn the CS order over to DCS for enforcement. Kind of hoping that happens because that's the kind of bitch I am! }:)

On a side note, looking for comments on what age your kids were when you were ok with them being home alone after school for 2 or less hours?