Hey...I'm writing this in the hope that I'm not the only one who feels this way!

Me and my partner have known one another for 15 years but have been together for 3 years. I have an 8 year old son by a previous and he has a 6 year old daughter from a previous. We have a 13 month old son together, are engaged and booked a wedding for May 2012! (which is now being cancelled from so many issues with his daughter).

I have grown a strong resentment for this little girl due to not only my own issues but also other people's. My partners family do not like me anymore as she doesn't have her own room at our house. There are 3 bedroom's and she only comes here once a week. She has her own room at her house. What's the problem? She has her own clothes here but my 8 year old son's bedroom is too small for an extra wardrobe....they kicked a fuss up about that. When she is here on the weekend's she calls it her room too and so does my partner. She kicked up a fuss because she doesn't have a poster in the bedroom or a quilt cover for her. My partner's family didn't see our son for 8 weeks because of this. Admittedly that isn't the only reason. I haven't been very great with her because from day one I've just not been able to take to her. Everyone keeps saying keep trying...but how when she won't try back? She cries if I ask her if she wants to go to the shop to get some sweets! She cries if I sit down and do her hair! Her Mum hasn't made things easy for me. I tried to make things easier for my partner and his daughter by now and again texting her Mum to see if I could pick her up and take her swimming when I was taking my boys...she'd not reply. I'd text and ask her if I could get her daughter's hair cut...she'd not reply. This happened on a few occasions yet when I'd pick her daughter up or drop her off she'd be fine and sometimes ask my partner if I wanted to go to sports days etc. I built up a strong resentment for her Mum and hated it when my partner would speak with her on the phone or when he'd go round there. It caused a lot of arguements with me being unreasonable. Recently my 6 year old little delight of a step-brat has been going back to her mother saying I've been smacking her and saying things like "you should be greatful your here and not at your mother's". I mean don't me wrong...I dislike this little girl intently....but I'm not frigging stupid! I've never so much as grabbed her arm in temper let alone smack her. I barely smack my own kids! So this caused ruptions with her Mother who took her side. Two weeks prior to this I had picked my step-daughter up from her house and spoke to her Mum regarding us meeting up to smooth over a few things i.e things like her ignoring me and things my delightful step daughter had gone home saying about me. She agreed to meet, we were very amicable and she suggested the four of us meeting up (her, her partner, me and my partner). I said I was agreeable to this but would like to meet alone with her beforehand. I week later she still hadn't bothered to text me. My partner said for me to text her which I really didn't want to do because of the blanking me before...but he said to drop my pride and just do it for his daughters sake. So I did. And guess what? She didn't reply. So I said f**k her basically and told my partner I'd given up trying with both of them. Then step brat came over the weekend. Everything changes when she's around because of the crying all the time. She cries if she can't find her own shoe for god sake! I opened the door for her and she cried! ?????? Anyway, for the crying things been a problem from day 1 but has got progressively worse the last 3 months. We didn't realise she had been going back saying these things about me for two weeks! Bitch! She stayed over the Saturday, woke up in the morning after crying herself to sleep cos she wanted to go home and caused such a scene my son couldn't sleep. Well my partner took her home and then told me what she had been saying. I was absolutley fuming!! Her Mum then texted my partner saying for us to go round there and talk and if I was going. I said she had her chance blah blah blah and they got into a big row. She has now said if I don't talk to her then step brat isn't aloud to come round here anymore. lol she's done me a favour! But you can imagine the rows me and my partner have been having. I've never hated anyone before and can't believe I hate a 6 year old girl but I don't even feel bad for it! I look at her and think err I just want you gone! How horrible is that! I've grown a big jealousy problem over her and my partner over the years too and it's a major problem. I don't like him calling her babe or cuddling her. I don't stop it, I just don't look. Now me and my partner may be calling it a day. He's staying away from home at the moment and the thing is we can't let go because we love one another deeply. I have put my foot down and said step brat is aloud nowhere near my 13 month old son or around here unless she admits to her lies and apolotgies. Anyone in kind of the same position?