heard the same thing until he read the blogs listed, do you think that he would be open to peeking in every now and then?

I think at first he had a fear because the Internet was where his ex "found" several of her affairs. I have been inviting him to look on, showing him things on purpose and always are "in public" as to not hide anything.

I'm not really doing it because he doesn't trust, more because it is on the same idea as telling someone where you are going when you leave just to be polite or modeling for my kids who I request that they use the computer in public and that I know all of their passwords and the history may never be erased.

My exGF thought everyone here was a kid hating maniac and it really added to our problems that I pointed her here, but the truth is that all these people are just folks who got into situations that got out of hand and need to talk. It's important to express yourself without fear of it filtering around your town or workplace, to see if what you are feeling is normal. I couldn't ask everyone I know about the crazy things exGF thinks because I didn't want it tainting their opinions of her. I just needed to know what I was in the majority on and what I wasn't in the majority on, and I don't want to go around polling my employees or friends or family.

There's nothing wrong with coming here to ask for opinions or advice. If it helps you or makes you feel better than it's a good thing. Don't let a bunch of strangers run your marriage, but there's nothing wrong with seeking a little advice from people in similar situations.