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Update to disengaged and practicing the pause

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Well its been a couple of days.   So far SS is back in school, he even hung out with a friend tonight until about 5:00ish.  Nice.   He is currently downstairs alseep of course, it's about 6:45 PM here .  Since Sunday I've said "good morning" to him twice, haven't had acknowledgement on SS part .  When he entered the house this evening I told him Hello.  No acknowledgement.

I did give him money for lunch since the money comes from a join account anyway.   Me giving him a twenty is preferable to his dad giving him 40.   It was for lunch for only a couple of days until his lunch account at school can get back up and running from being withdrawn .

Other than that I have been minding my own business and enjoying it.   I'm not setting a place for him at dinner,  I'm not worrying about whether or not he's awake in time for school.   It was a bit funny that on the first day his dad was all troubled about himself getting ready so he would be able to assist his son with getting back to school.  I'm thinking maybe the problem is not the stepson so much as dad not letting go.    The SS was up and ready by 6:30.  This I think was because he didn't sleep the night before but he was up and getting ready.   

SS is still inconsiderate (not replying when some one says good morning or hello .  We'll see how the rest of the month goes.