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sam's picture

about ss since he and his mom decided to move him out while we were not at home.We went to his school and talked to the principal and he said if anything his grades were improving.Then we went to his locker and found his coat the new pair of running shoes we just bought him and a pack of smokes.So i cant grasp in my head why this kid would do something like this to his own father hes lucky hes not mine.My dh is coming around hes had a couple of bad days but its understandable.I feel so bad for him.We talked the other night and i asked him if he blamed me or had any regrets about us but he said the only thing he regrets is getting mixed up with bm she has made his life a living hell even before when he was with her he said she used to walk around the house calling him white trash in front of the kids all the time.The things he told me about her i cant believe that a human being acts this way she is evil.I feel a little better because thier is peace here now and not tension but i still wish ss would realize what he has done and at least call his dad.

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Endora's picture

SS would move back to BM-but DH would be heartbroken and inconsolable-

Enjoy the peace and focus on the marriage-I am sure SS will be back at some point.

Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!

aka's picture

My skids haven't been to our house since August 08. At first I was worried that my DH was going to blame me or regret it but after a while I think he finally saw how selfish and entitled his kids act. They hardly ever call him and when they do all they want is something and just talk about themselves. Neither of them ask about me (NEVER).. I gave so much for 2+ years to them and they can't even ask how I am doing. Nothing.. So why should I give .. I say enjoy it focus on yourself and your Hubby and try not to feel guilty. The BM did this not you..

stepmom2one's picture

after he realizes his mistake. But that might take awhile, he has to learn it on his own. Be patient, he will come back to him. And it is best SS does it on his own terms...since he is the one who left.

sam's picture

all so right and have made me feel better about this and hopefully my dh sees that it is all bms doing actually he does know this because we know in our hearts that we tried our best with these kids to teach them the right way my dh just doesnt know if he will hear from them and that is whats hurting.If ss came and talked to us about going back to his moms we would have probably let him even though that is not a good idea because shes mental but we know we couldnt force him to stay and he knew this that is why we are just shocked.