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First Skid School Event - Should I go?

saffron1's picture

Hi ladies

I have been with my SO for nearly 2 years, and play, what I think, is a key role in his daughter's school life. Whilst I've never been to any school events (mostly to avoid BM), I'm the one who they tend to come to with their homework, spelling etc.. I even taught YSD to write her name (that went down well lol). Anyway, in a couple of weeks SDs' school is having a family outdoors activity day, like a fare but the kids also do outdoors performances in front of parents, and SO really wants me to go. I would LOVE to go and I know SO would also love the moral support (he tends to avoid BM at such events but I'm sure its inevitable that they'll have to say hi), but I'm just worried about the drama it might cause. SDs' step dad is really involved in lives, he goes to Parent-Teacher Meeting, dance lessons etc...despite having been with BM for a similar time to SO and I, but I can imagine that BM will not like it if I'm there. Whilst she wouldn't kick off at the event, I can imagine her and her friends bitching about me (like they did at the last Parent-Teacher Meeting that SO went to, where he was made to feel really uncomfortable). I suppose I'm just asking if you ladies think I should go, I want to support SDs and show the 'bitchy school mom' world that SO and I are united... but then I don't want to engage with BM?! I have spoken to a couple of my friends who think that I should go because I am just as important in the girls' lives as their step-dad, and because it'd make for a nice day out for SO and I. PLUS, a good friend encouraged me to go as BM is currently HEAVILY pregnant with twins and so she told me to go in a pair of skinnies and a crop top }:) (karmas gonna get me haha). Joking aside though, I'd love if you ladies would offer me some advice/tips... should I go?

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saffron1's picture

Thanks for your advice Smile I will go... and I will hold SO's hand for the whole time too, as a security thing I think!! Thanks again.

saffron1's picture

I have to admit, I totally agreed with your advice. SO and I are a very affectionate couple too and, the first time I met BM I could tell that it got to her. Whilst by no means did we kiss/hold hands to annoy her, numerous people (after the event) said they'd noticed her 'glares'. At one point I personally though, did notice her walk up to her SO and throw her arms around his neck, and he moved them away... lol :). But yes, anyway, thanks for your advice. I think I will go!

saffron1's picture

You got it spot-on when you said she will test me like a 2 year old. I'd rather her completely ignore me and SO, the problem is though that she does anything BUT ignore SO (and sometimes me). Thank you though, I know you're right Smile