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SD enrolled at school in our state but living in home state with BM?

sadlonelyone's picture

I posted the other day that BM couldn't get SD back into her old charter school and now instead of sending SD to a public school back home, BM says SD will continue going to the school she's in online until the end of the year. That she is failing and refuses to do the work or acknowledge that lack on trying is indirectly failing. I don't like this at all but DH will probably agree to it.

DH is concerned about the Chromebook going to BM's so I emailed the counselor to get his input. He also told BM that if SD needs to be in school for whatever reason that she is responsible for the flight up here. I'm sure she didn't consider that but their call was cut short.


notarelative's picture

Academically, it may be the best choice. It is extremely hard on students to transfer mid year when in high school. However, if the school goes back in person, it is going to be a problem.

SD is not in your house. You don't have to try to get her up for school. Put it out of your mind and let the chips fall where they may.

sadlonelyone's picture

They had sent emails about it but probably won't require in person this year. I just don't like the idea of being partially responsible (because DH won't care once SD isn't in our house). I just feel so bad for SD and made it known to her that I had no hand in this plan.

notarelative's picture

I've found that adopting the Serenity Prayer helps.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.

You can only do what you can do. You are not SD's bio parent. You are not responsible.  This is out of your control.

sadlonelyone's picture

It's just crazy that someone can make parenting so intentionally difficult on the child.

sadlonelyone's picture

Nope. SD is "lonely" here but excludes herself and there is no custody arrangement or child support involved. Just BM suddenly claiming to be better about helping SD not fail the 10th grade when 6 months ago she said she couldn't handle her and worked too much.

Harry's picture

If BM wants SD to do on line schooling you have no choice in this matter.  As long as SD is living with BM it's all on BM.

If you ever want to see the cromebook again do not let SD take it to BM house.  BM is making all the plans so she will have to figure out how SD gets on line. 

Do not let BM take up too much space in your mind   What will happen, will happen.  Just make sure that DH understands that a failing SD will not live with you when CS ends 

sadlonelyone's picture

There isn't CS but SD said before that she wanted to come to college in our state but I don't see that happening if she can't pass high school. But DH said she can always live here.