Is it DF fault
You all have dealt with a BM is non-compromising, invades your life, has her own rules and thinks the world revolves around BM and DH. From what I see on this site - the majority of DH enable the EW to treat them they way they do. The DH has behavior patterns that are pre-established with the EW - communciation methods, frequency, white lies they tell to avoid conflict, being procrastinators and non-responsive until issues escalate. How do you get a DH to not procrastinate but also not communicate with EW for every single little thing. Recent example is EW read an article in the paper and felt the need to speak with DH about it - even though it is non relevant about SS. She called his cell phone - not the home phone - to speak with him. She never calls the home phone. I am thinking about disconnecting DH cell because of this and if he wants to pay for a cell to communicate with her - then he can do so. She can call his work or home. EW does this thing where she tries work, then cell, then work again, and last resort if SS is at my house, will call SS to relay a message to DH.
If DH responded to every single little thing - he would spend endless hours on the phone with her. So not sure if dc the cell is best solution but need to do something to direct the calls and limit her.