OSD continues to punish DH....think he is starting to get it now
A few days ago DH contacted OSD about wanting to visit during the gkids spring break, and inquired when it would be. He then cleared the dates with me, and I thought everything was set.
Yesterday he let me know he was going to have to reschedule the visit because OSD has now scheduled her family to go away for a few days, and the remainder of spring break BM will be there.
Really? Your father contacts you about visiting, everything is set, and then you just make other plans?
But yes, she is punishing daddy and showing him that she will reward BM, who is always there, because BM has made OSD and the gskids her whole life. OSD is an expert manipulator, and in her mind, rewards and punishes appropriately.
In the last two years, OSD says she has been in counseling because her father defended me and not her. It took a long time for DH to say something, she thought she had his silent approval for years, and when he finally spoke up and stopped chasing her, she started to punish him in return.
A few months ago OSD took BM to visit with her father's family, took pictures, then posted them on Facebook. When DH asked OSD not to post pictures of BM with HIS family, she got upset and asked why? Then she told him she was still in counseling, and him reprimanding her was not helping her. Oh, boo hoo!
She is in her forties, poor baby.
I feel somewhat sad for DH, but at the same time, he raised her to be the narcissist she is. Soon she will be whining that her father never visits her and the gkids. I have not seen her in a few years and could not be happier about it.
Very happy DH was planning to drive and did not book airfare that he would now have to cancel.