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Okay, so we got the skids early this morning because BM had to work today.........so she said.

RustyHalo's picture

FH was on his way home from a job a little before noon and he passes by one of BM's favorite bars. Her car is in the parking lot. FH comes in the door, shoos the skids out of the kitchen where I am doing the dishes, still in my pajamas (lazy day), and he tells me to go "pretty" myself up because we are going to this bar. I ask why and he says because BM is there. I ask "so, what are we gonna do when we get there?" and he says we will just walk in and order a drink, drink it, and then just leave. (We have many mutual friends and since it's New Years Eve and raining here, some of our construction friends will be starting the celebration early and will be in that same bar.)

FH is out in the garage right now waiting for me and fiddling with "garage stuff" and I'm not even sure if I want to go and play this game. It is OUR day with the skids after all and so why should we care that BM told a lie and spends her day in a bar? FH says that it's BS that the skids arrive here still in their pajamas, hair unbrushed, teeth unbrushed, and not fed, just so that she can "rush" to the bar?! I agree with him on that one, but still...............I don't know about this one.

FH says he just wants to make a point to let HER know that WE know she lied.

And another thing, to make her lie even more believable, she was in her nursing scrubs when she dropped the skids off this morning.

Should I go and do this with FH or let him go alone. My 17 y/o daughter is here so she can watch the skids while we are gone. I'm just not sure if I NEED to be there. I think FH can get the point across by himself. I guess he just wants me to go for moral support. I dunno what to do.

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Pantera's picture

DO IT!!! GO!!! I wish my DH would have done things like this in the beginning!!!

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

frustratedinMA's picture

I see his point.. its kind of a, gotcha, dont think you can lie to me and I believe it all the time.

I do get why he is doing it. I guess I am not sure why you HAVE to go, unless he is worried about her trying to come on to him.

I say do it!!

RustyHalo's picture

I think he wants me to go because, first of all he would NEVER normally go to a bar without me, and also because BM has bad-mouthed me so much from the get-go that he assumes I want/need the satisfaction of calling her out on her lies without even having to open my mouth. I do believe it will give me some satisfaction and hopefully make BM look/feel like an ass. I think I just may go.

**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**

Pantera's picture

Yay!!! Drink one for me!!!

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

frustratedinMA's picture

Also second that I wish my DH would call BM out on her stuff the way your dh is!!

belleboudeuse's picture

I agree with your FH -- definitely go. Sit there, give her a long, long look, drink your drinks, and leave. Then next time she asks you for a favor, tell her no. When she asks why, tell her it's because you know she lies to you.

BB

You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

RustyHalo's picture

I agree with you BB and I am definitely gonna go. This opportunity doesn't happen every day and BM loves to play the "perfect hard working mommy" all the time. Also, again, she NEVER has any money and so we use the "too many beers in a bar" on her every time she cries "poor".

**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**

belleboudeuse's picture

Ooh, I have another thought: take pictures or video of her at the bar, and then, next time she wants a favor, you can MMS her phone with pix of her drinking when she was supposed to be working! LOL!

BB

You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

stepmom008's picture

Definitely go! I wish my BF would do stuff like that to call her our on her crap.

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

frustratedinMA's picture

you MUST blog about this when you get back and let us know how it went, and the look on her face when she got CAUGHT!!!

RustyHalo's picture

Definitely!!!!

**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**

Wicked.Step.Monster's picture

Please have something with tequila in it for me!!! PLEEEEEEASE! I really need a drink! Smile

Starwhite's picture

I wouldn't go if I were you. I almost get the feeling that he is forcing you. I do not believe you really want to go but he is ordering you. Am I wrong?

Jbee27's picture

GO!!! And make sure for good measure, you order her another drink, just so she's aware that she's been caught!

Pantera's picture

Did you go? What happened?

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus