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rosie33's picture

Sometimes, for a quick second, I see a light of hope and think that maybe one day our life will not revolve around the crazy….then reality sets in and I crawl back into my hole of hopelessness. Every time we think we are "ahead of the game" or that we will finally have something go our way - it back fires. I believe in karma - or I have just convinced myself that at some point things have got to bite this girl in her ass in order to keep my sanity - not sure. Crazy used to be an RN, stole pills, got fired, entered a program to keep her license but had stipulations, screwed that up, now her license is suspended and is out of the program. Unemployment stopped. She filed for child support (couldn't do it sooner bc her unemployment was damn near $500/week). Decided to get a job working two days a week and its a 30 min commute one way making $10/hr. Lives with her parents and pays for a cell phone. She claimed that she pays rent and for groceries at the child support hearing. Yet they never asked my BF what his rent was or any of his other bills. They also took the balance of their son's braces and split it in half and made my BF responsible for that half. He doesn't mind paying it BUT he has paid more than she has so taking the balance and splitting it in half is not fair. She wasn't making her payments, he was. They asked her if she receives any assistance for anything, she said no. He ended up having to pay $700/mo. for two with 50/50 custody. Last week their youngest got the flu - horrible. Ended up in the ER and given IV's bags and so forth. He's getting better. That was on Thursday, her week ends Sunday. Now when we did custody, she fought for my BF to have to get the boys up every morning and take them to her mom's house to catch the bus there (20 min drive, one way). He is not allowed to take them to school or pick them up, they are to get on the bus at her mom's house. (yes, a judge approved this and there was NO reason that he can't take his kids to school or pick them up) YET her youngest told us that SHE takes him AND picks him up a lot. On the occasion that one of them are sick or have appts while he is at work, she takes them bc she typically doesn't work or her mom does bc she doesn't work either. Yesterday, the youngest stayed with her while my BF worked bc he is not supposed to go to school til tomorrow. She told him that since he has off work, he needed to take their son to the ER or a walk in clinic to get followed up with as far as how he's doing. Now, he has no problem taking him to the Dr if he's off work and can do so BUT she knew their family doctor was closed on Tuesday and that he would either have to take him to the ER or a clinic. WHY wouldn't she have taken him to their family doctor yesterday when she was off and could - because thats what she fought for in custody - instead make him see another doctor who isn't familiar with him. She is such a control freak and LOVES to feel like she "makes" my BF do things. Of course hes going to take him regardless but I think she also did it because with the child support she is ordered to pay the first $250 per year of anything that is accrued with medical. So she knows if he takes him, he will have to pay. So while they were arguing about this, she decides to tell him she has the boys on medical assistance :jawdrop: WHY IN THE WORLD would she put them on medical assistance when he has had them on his insurance through his employer since they were born! They are 9 and 12! Wouldn't she have to include his income when applying for that because they have 50/50 custody? They also had an agreement prior to child support that she pays for everything for the youngest and he pays for everything for the oldest - well she ended up getting free lunches for the youngest so she wouldn't have to pay for them. Mind you, she didn't have medical assistance when they set up support - they would've gotten the paperwork - she waited til she got the $700 and THEN applied. Lovely. We also found out she gets food stamps - and lives with her parents who one works and the other receives SSI!! Bet that didn't go on the paperwork either. I just don't get it. Now, when they were in the child support hearing, my boyfriend opted to be in a separate room from her bc when they are in the same room she gets all crazy and he doesn't say half the crap he should. Well that bit us in the ass - shocker! She got to sit in the room with the hearing officer and lay it on thick!! How she got addicted to pills and the hospital was being nice and trying to work with her and she didn't have any $ to get her nursing license re-instated OH and how he broke her wrist and thats why she got addicted to pills! When in fact, SHE attacked him at their sons soccer game and when he went to shove her off of him, she grabbed his coat and hyper extended her finger!! She had a splint on her finger!!!!!! My BF didn't even know she said all this, it was typed on the paperwork when we got the copies! and she had unemployment for 20 months !! If all it took was $ to get her license back, what the hell? But no, she messed up in the program and THATS why she doesn't have it! They told my BF that yes, at some point she can be held at her previous RN salary - a whopping $60k/year! AND she can be held at 40 hours, you can't just decide to work part time so you can get more support! When he asked when that can happen the woman told him, "I can't tell you that, you would have to decide what a reasonable amount of time is"! UMMMM she got fired two years ago this March! She had PLENTY of time! Fortunately for us, I have a friend who knows her bullcrap and she informed me that she loves to post her life on FB and that she has been working a lot - more then her 2 days a week, and she even said in the hearing that she can pick up more shifts. My BF is going to file for a modification today but Im done getting my hopes up about anything. Knowing our luck, it'll get raised! Just frustrating to deal with such a low life who stops at nothing and the sad part is she justifies EVERYTHING she does to herself.

If you read this entire thing, I appreciate it! It's long and honestly even if I don't get any feedback, sometimes I just need to type it all out and get it off my chest.

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Willow2010's picture

He ended up having to pay $700/mo. for two with 50/50 custody
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That is sickening to me and just so wrong. You have a long road. sorry

rosie33's picture

Actually, someone did report her for food stamp fraud but I'm assuming nothing came of it and the only reason I know is because she sent my boyfriend a nice text calling myself, his mom and him all sorts of names (even though its in the custody agreement that she can do that) because she ASSUMED it was us. It wasn't. However, he is calling welfare today about the medical assistance and everything else because I think his income has to be included and if not, his child support should be going to them, not her.

oldone's picture

I was not married to DH when SS was a minor. But I know that CS was always handled outside the court. He said she was always very lax about it and never caused any problems. Never asked for it to be increased in 20 years. Nor did she pay any (she made way more money most of the time) when he had custody.

But what she then has done for decades is moan and whine about how little she got and how he didn't step up, etc. She is the pitiful victim person who always has to whine about her life. When she had an affair with the next door neighbor it was because he was never home at night (ran a restaurant). It was NOT HER FAULT. Nothing ever is.

rosie33's picture

O yes, we are very familiar with the victim card - our BM might be the president of that club!

rosie33's picture

Yes, I think my mouth has literally dropped sometimes when I read others stories as well. It just gets overwhelming some days but thank you.

rosie33's picture

He is calling welfare to find out exactly what is going on. She said they are on medical assistance and when he took him to the Dr today they had his insurance but he didn't pay anything and he should have a co-pay. She also told him if he takes the scrips to Target, they are free. He called his insurance and the woman told him he should've had a co-pay. So he's going to call welfare and see what they say. He is going to file for a modification for support tomorrow either way because she is working more then her 2 days she said she was. More like full time now. We'll see what happens. I wish too there were more people like that in the system and as much as I hate to say this, the child support system is 100% FOR the mothers, regardless of the situation. At least with everything I've encountered.