My Stepdaughter annoys me
I've been with my fiancee for 6 years and he has a 23-year-old daughter who lives in our guest house and pays rent and is studying at UCLA. She is very smart and outgoing but for some reason refuses to engage with me and seems to act as though I don't exist. My fiancee is the sole provider of our household and we were using our guesthouse as a second income by renting it out to a friend of ours until he moved out and my husband decided that his daughter who was 18 at the time could live there and pay half the amount we had rented it at. This irritated me because my fiancee and I were trying to save for our wedding and the extra money was helping us. I didn't want to be rude and I told my fiancee that we needed the money and his daughter could easily live on campus but he got offended. My fiancee has a very good relationship with his BM and I thought it was inappropriate and weird at first. I didn't realize how much my fiancee's ex-wife would be over to see his daughter and it bothered me that she was in our business and would just pop up here and then. I was mad at myself for feeling this way and I began hating his daughter. For example, I've know this girl since she was a teenager and she's always been a daddy's girl and she barely spoke to me but she had gifted everyone a nice bag of homemade treats for Christmas. When she gave her father one she said ”this ones for you and Chelsea (me)” It was as though she totally forgot I was part of the family and at last minute made it for both of us. She also will invite her friends over and whenever I see her she irritates me. She is kind and polite but I feel like she totally disregards me as a member of the family and did not invite me to her graduation party which left me feeling hurt. I don't know what I feel this way?!?!