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Making rules and appropriate consequences

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I should have done this BEFORE FDH moved in with me two years ago. As some of you know/remember from my past blogs SD6 is out of control. After last weekends lying fest and her stealing BD3's things over several weeks possibly months, I've decided something has to be done. Disney dad never gives consequences and I'm fearful of this little terrorists influence on BD3. I want the rules and consequences to be age appropriate, but I'm honestly only doing this because of SD6. In the house we have BS13 and BD3 full time with SD6 every weekend.

BD's bday

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Today is BD's 3rd birthday, but we celebrated yesterday.

We always have parties at my parent's house because it's so much larger than our house. My mom has been on prednisone for weeks due to some weird lung inflammation so her immunity is low and can't be around anyone that's sick. This is the first time she's had anyone over in 2-3 months due to this.

So sick

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So who drags their sick kid out of bed at 9pm at night? BM...duh!! Lol She had to "work" but wasn't dressed for it. Big surprise. Now my whole household is sick because of BM. I'm even more pissed at FDH for agreeing.

If FDH thinks I'm going to marry other woman's yes man, he's in for a big surprise. He'd rather piss me off and get the whole house sick instead of telling this "mother" no.

Need some advice about my ex

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So this was the weekend FDH had to work Saturday night. I thought it was supposed to be last weekend but I was wrong. I got a babysitter for my kids and went out so SD didn't come. }:)

FDH is a bartender so I hung out at his work with him and had a great time. This bar is in my hometown and is was our Settler's Day weekend. I must also throw in its a very small town and almost everyone knows each other.

How cute FDH...NOT

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FDH's idea to entertain the kids this weekend was to make a fort out of all these cardboard boxes we have. I thought it was an awesome idea. They'll be entertained and once the boxes are trashed, they'll finally find their way to the garbage.

Drum roll please....FDH allows SD to camp in it. Not my little one, just SD. That's not even the shocking part. He allows her to drag it into our room. Yes, FDH allowed SD6 to camp on our bedroom floor.

FDH working Saturday night

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FDH hasn't worked a Saturday in a long time and we really need the money so it's awesome. HOWEVER, we have SD every weekend. EVERY WEEKEND. He hasn't said anything about SD for this weekend and I'm thinking he thinks that I'm going to watch her. That's a big NO. I can't stand her when he's "watching" her, let alone having to actually pay attention to her myself. I'm dreading this conversation;it's probably going to be a big argument.

Update:OT-Depressed

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I just got off the phone a little while ago after a two hour argument. He basically turned everything around and said I don't communicate or talk to him enough and he doesn't get off on looks alone. He said I make him feel like nothing more than a tool.

Basically, everything I said was taken as a personal attack and insult and that I could remedy this myself if I would just talk to him more. He takes no accountability and everything is pretty much my fault. He doesn't understand where I am coming from at all and pretty much all he said is I'm selfish.

OT-Depressed

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I really don't have anything to complain about with step life right now. SD is the same and I've been finding excuses to be away from home while she's there...that's been my solution to that.

I don't have very many people in my life right now and don't know who to talk to about this. I feel like my relationship is coming to an end. He says he loves me and just wants to jet out to Las Vegas to get married, but I've been having second thoughts.

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