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Entry Two: It Never Ends

rodgersmommyof 4's picture

Since DH has had to fight for everything from everything from parenting time just getting school & medical information for SS9. Considering she lives over an hour and a half away and has made it so DH can't get any information without her getting it and giving it to him. She informed him just last week that due to snow days SS9 goes to school until the 18th which is half way through our first week of summer. UGH! So, now what? This has never happened before does anyone know what happens?

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Rags's picture

Call the school, get the school work, have the Skid complete it and send it to the school every week for the next 10 days.

Dad's time, dad can deal with it how dad wishes. BM bites her lip.

IMHO of course.

cfmommyof3's picture

I was also gonna say website. That's how we keep track of my SDs school crap. BM tells us nothing. Also what does their CO say? If they have 50/50 legal rights and responsibility (separate from physical custody in our state) then both parents have equal rights to school/med, etc info. You just have to send a copy of your CO stating that part to school/dr, etc and say you want copies of anything BM gets. Now that our CO papers are in place (for now anyway) we are doing that this yr so BM cant keep shit to herself.

rodgersmommyof 4's picture

Of course this time she is not lying. I went on the website and could kick myself in the ass I usually have all the dates and all the time we get him wrote down, but I didn't consider the damn snow days. She has made it that the school will only talk to her. If he calls or even goes there they won't give him any information. FOC says she has to give DH all the information, but she still only does it when she wants to no matter how many complaints we put in to FOC. She has put her husband down as SS9 BF on all the information. I guess DH will have to go to FOC tomorrow and spend the day sorting it all out. Sad

rodgersmommyof 4's picture

CO doesn't specify this is the first time SS9 has ever had school during our summer weeks.

rodgersmommyof 4's picture

I have to say when I read your comment I wanted to get defensive, but you're right. I have taken on a lot of this, because nothing gets done. With her living almost 100 miles away it has made it harder to follow up face to face with the school etc. BM has fought on everything. DH has taken the CO order to every school, because she has switched his school four times now and he's only in 3rd grade! They still will not give DH the information. So, FOC told BM she had to give everything to FOC and then they would forward to DH. Which I can't make any sense out of any of it. If everyone would do there job it would be so much easier! I agree DH has to step up and deal with this himself. I feel like I am nagging at time for him to follow through, because he doesn't want to deal with BM, because she's insane! I want to thank you for your honesty.

spittenfire's picture

I agree with Tog. In missouri at least there are statutes mandating the schools to release information to parents. If they have joint legal and refuse get an attorney as they are breaking the law.

rodgersmommyof 4's picture

He provided the schools (this is school number four) the CO and the paperwork. However has not threatened them with legal action. High conflict type is one way of putting it. We call her psycho. LOL! Thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate it. It will be a long road regardless.

rodgersmommyof 4's picture

Thank you. At this point we'll try next year since he will be going to another different school.