Have two stepkids 11 and 13. 13 yr old is a daughter. She has always been difficult since me and DH have been together. As she enters her teenage years it's gotten harder. She has stopped wanting to come to our home for once monthly visitation (we live 4 hours away) 11 year old so enjoys coming. She does not want to be around me or my kids anymore (me and dh have been together 5 years) and only will agree to having relationship with husband that excludes me. I feel jealous and excluded. When my husband talks to her on the phone it's like we dont exist and he never talks to her about his life here it's as if he enters another realm that I'm not a part of....the rational part of me knows I married someone with kids and they deserve to have a one on one relationship with them...I'm ok with it with my stepson....but with my stepdaughter it feels horrible because she so openly rejects me and my kids. Does anyone have any advice? Please help!!! I've tried reaching out to her and I never get a response.
The bio mom is a very difficult person and has not made this easier. Blames me for everything.