Just a paycheck and a piece of a$$
I know DH doesn't believe he sees me that way but it sure seems like I get treated that way quite often. Just because he isn't a jerk about it doesn't mean it's not happening.
He really had no clue how much was spent on the lawyer and GAL. His response was to tell me I supported him and what should he have done, not fought it? That wasn't my point.
I laid out my points:
My credit rating as through the roof when we met. It's not bad now but it's not what it was.
I managed the bills for three years and with my paycheck adding to the bottom line his extra divorce debt that BM left him with got paid off...and it wasn't a small amount.
He didn't pay any attention to the amount billed by the lawyer and never remembered to look at the balance on that card so I have been the one making sure it got paid and the one to transfer money to cover.
We have carved a significant chunk out of our/my savings for the latest lawyer stuff.
Never once has he added it up, looked at where the money came from, and/or said thank you.
Vacation days are only taken when it conveniences him except for one half day I had to practically beg to get.
He always takes off of the skids will have a day off even though they are old enough to be alone and usually hang in their rooms.
He makes plans to invite people or go places and I'm supposed to be fine with it or take days...without really asking me if it can be a plan.
If anyone else is around he seems to forget I'm present. Or it's like I'm his sidekick.
But if he doesn't have anyone else to do things with then I'm his play date.
When we got married me and my son moved into his house that he and BM bought and modified. I spent my money supplementing the payoff of his bills and used money from the sale of my house for the lawyer when it was supposed to be for he and I to do more things to the house and maybe I'd start to feel like it's mine too. I'm so tired of him being mr nice and helpless.
Now who wouldn't feel a little used? A simple acknowledgement of the money spent and a thank you would have gone a long way.