Frustrated at the ex wife
Hi I am new to this site, and I was searching for a site on how to help deal with an ex wife. I have been married for 5 years and have to stepchildren one is 12 the other is 13.
A year ago the ex-wife moved out of her parents house and now lives on her own, every since then she calls him to go over and help around the house, fix the dishwasher, thermostat, her car, move furniture, pick up and deliver furniture. etc...
She is also very broke so we are ending up not only paying for child support but any other things like clothes, shoes, registration for school, or sports and anything else they require.
We are the bank to her and she expects us to drop everything to go over there and help - it wouldnt be so bad if my husband actually said no once in awhile but he runs as soon as she calls. I would actually like him to help out around the house which he doesnt so that ticks me off even more.
We are fighting all the time now and its always about money and her. He is actually defending her and saying Im being unreasonable to get pissed with all this. I cant make him see my side and now he is saying he doesnt want to have a child with me because he is too busy in his life running between households. I am 28 yrs old I really want to have a child and I dont know what to do any suggestions on how I should or could handle this?
The kids are great and I love them to bits - its just that they are even confused with the relationship that we all have because my husband and her are together a lot and a couple of times my stepson has made comments to his mom that his dad has a new wife and not to get used to his dad being around to help all the time.
Any advice on this my marriage is on the rocks and I dont know what to do!!!