Thoughts for discussion
Since a common struggle for STalkers, new and old, is a spouse that puts children above their marriage/partner what are the solutions to this problem?
This is a new thought for me but.. how about the non-priority spouse countering the other partner's kid worship with agressively not making the kid worshiping spouse or the kids the priority?
I know it is a tit for tat tactic but.... letting the kid worshipping/prioritizing spouse know that they are not the priority due to them not making their partner their priority may drive the message home.
"Oh, you put your kids above me and our marriage yet again. Now you get to step up and clean the house, do the laundry, yard work, and get a second job. Since I am not your priority I will not be doing anything that aids you or your children. Let me know when you are ready to grow up and be my partner. Don't take too long. If I reach the end of my rope you and your kids are gone."
No hints, no subptelty, just non priority mirroring consequences. Pointing out the lack of commitment and priority in the offending partner.
I am infuriated by the repetition of failed behaviors while expecting a different result. So... aggressively highlighting the lack of priority on the marriage for the offending partner may work. If it doesn't, no great loss.