Omg! I forgot the latest IL clan update. I wonder what that means?
Maybe I am mellowing a bit.
I shared a while ago that my SIL's DH received a buy out from the company he has worked for over the past 20+ years when that employee owned company was purchased by a larger industry dominating company.
His buy out was about $400K. Beyond shocking is that they did not blow it on a new house, new cars, countless tattoos, etc... The new company engaged SIL's DH as an integral part of their management team and immediately started developing him as they engaged him to train on the new company's best practices, transitioned the newly acquired company to the new company's systems, etc... He and SIL were included in a two week Sr. leader +1 trip to France in early Fall of 2022, he performed as a key leader in their industry convention/gathering activities, etc.....
He was doing great.
Well, the lack of self esteem, lack of confidence, and cranky former blue collar guy turned manager genes bit him in the ass. The bigger company has been engaging him in developing their interns and NCG employes.
So, non degreed SIL's DH got his skivvies in a twist about how they don't know what they are doing, he isn't going to train people who make more than he does, etc....
And.. without notice, just walked out one day and never went back. No specific statement on when this happened though apparently it was a couple of months ago or so.
Both DW and I had commented recently that we had not heard a squeek out of SIL in quite a while. We have talked to MIL, and a number of other IL clan members .... CRICKETS! No one mentioned SIL's DH's stupid move.
So now he is a land fill equipment operator. Making shit for nothing. Best estimate is that he took a 60% pay cut with his tantrum.
The $400K we were hopeful that they would keep invested, add to over the next 20+ years, etc...
I live in Vegas. My bet.... it will mostly be gone in a decade. Maybe less. I hope I am wrong.
After dropping the return to stupid status of she and her DH again, SIL informed DW that she will be driving down bringing her two kids with her to visit DW for spring break. DW had a massive anxiety attack over that announcement. For more than 20yrs DW has kept her purse, etc... either on her person or locked up any time she visits her family. I ordered door locks for our bedroom door and our closet door. I hate doing home projects but for sure I am not going to serve our home up as a stop for SIL and her spawn as a thieving shopping trip location. SIL is a notorious thief with a long history of ripping off family. I do not trust her one bit nor do I trust her kids. (15, 11)
Fortunately, DW shut down that visit due to it being Tax season.
I'm still going to install the locks. Just in case they show up some time. Now that they are on the verge of being low income again, we represent far too appealing of a vacation location.
What the hell is it with these types of people? Even when they make good things happen for themselves, they have a penchant to get cranky about the solid work of others, then shove their heads up their own asses, yet again, then invest in their victimhood.
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Oh hell. Hotel room! It’s Vegas!
Anything off the strip or even fairmont should be pretty cheap. I hate thieves. Had a similar situation with an ex step daughter and her child. I had reached my limit with the missing items after every visit. Luckily I divorced out of that situation not long after that but I had disengaged before I knew what disengagement was and she stopped her vacation visits to her dad years before because I no longer was wait staff.
You can lead a horse to water
You know the rest. Not your problem. You can't fix dis function
I Get It
Thieves. Can't stand them. DH's youngest kids "borrowed" stuff from here way more than I want to remember.
As for the $400K. Don't count on it even lasting a decade. The BM here got right at $1Million dollars between retirement, savings, and investments (and that wasn't including the community property she hauled off with). In FOUR years, she was broke and homeless. In her defense, she had a lot of help spending the money - the 3 adult kids. Two of them conned a big chunk out of her to travel overseas.
Oh, the stories of wasteful spending that I could share from those years. But...not my problem. Just like 3 of DHs kids being homeless at one time or another...not my problem. Raised my kids. Neither has ever been homeless due to their good work ethic and "smarts" with money that WE taught them (my ex and myself).
Oh boy, it takes a special
Oh boy, it takes a special kind of stupid...
I have found that people have
I have found that people have a life level.
What I mean by that is that they have an unconscious setting of where they fit in their world, with their friends and family; their tribe.
They surround themselves with people who are at the same level they are at. Job, family, finances, they are all about the same. Once someone gets a better job, or makes more money, or dates someone at a different level they self sabotage and the rest of the tribe pulls them back in.
If they can't be pulled back in, then they are "stuck up" or "think they are too good for us now"! The self sabotage is to over spend, doubt themselves, quit that job, dump the new person.
I firmly believe this is why most lottery winners end up in bankruptcy. They always go back to their subconscious level.