why does he keep doing this?
Got home tonight and SO tells me he emailed his exw to tell her that someone she used to know has died.
Now im sorry this person has died but why does he have to email her? She hasnt had contact with this person for other 2years and yet my SO feels he has to tell his exw.
Quite honestly this is beginning to really wind me up. Is he going to continue to do this 5, 10, 15 years down the line??
Aghhhhhh
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Have you talked to him about
Have you talked to him about it?
If he's anything like my
If he's anything like my husband - the answer is yes.
There is a house in my town that looks like a 'hobbit house.' It was for sale and H texted Sasquatch to tell her that house was for sale. WHY? because he can't let go and neither can she, because she replied about how much they loved that house. :sick: These 2 assholes in my life should have never gotten divorced, much less remarried.
And surely someone else could have told the EXW that her acquaintance had passed away.
Oh yes. He doesnt see the
Oh yes. He doesnt see the problem and thinks im heartless.
I pointed out that if she was a friend she would have found out herself and his response was he wanted to tell her!
Raggles I'm seriously
Raggles I'm seriously irritated for you...divorce IMHO means you couldn't work it out and you aren't together. You are free from the other person. There is no need to discuss things that don't directly involve children you have together. Other stuff is enmeshed behavior and it's sickening.
Because she's the "mother of
Because she's the "mother of his children" (TM) :barf: :barf:
I still hear fond "memories" of Chef and the BM's marriage. Seriously?
My H stood in the grocery
My H stood in the grocery store isle and said to me, "of course I still love Sasquatch, she's the mother of my children."
^^Oh fuck no^^
^^Oh fuck no^^
Oh thank you guys. Seriously
Oh thank you guys. Seriously thought i was being unreasonable!
I dont even know why he did it because he knew it would piss me off.
ljcapp1 - ive had that excuse too!
DH did that at first two. He
DH did that at first two. He sent Inbred pictures of cabinets he built when he just started as a carpenter. I told him then, if you want her to be all proud of you then you can take your ass back to the farm. I'm not in a three way relationship, unless you'd like to make a four way relationship and I can send pics and talk regularly to Exh. That was what finally made the bell ring.
BM recently text my SO about
BM recently text my SO about an old friend of theirs running for some political office..whatever!
I told XH about our mutual
I told XH about our mutual friend dying because OUR SON goes to school with her son. I knew he didn't know as he decided I got her in the divorce. It wasn't to rehash old memories but basically so my son would know in case he saw her son at school.
They have several classes together. It was more so he could prepare BS13 in case the son said anything.
He said thanks I will take to BS13 unless you want to. We both talked to him and helped him deal with it because he knew her as well since his birth.
But if this isn't the case, involving the kids, f that, its not cool.
Did your DH notify 14 other
Did your DH notify 14 other random people who may or may not have been in contact with the deceased?? I bet not. Nope, BM was the first person to come to his mind. {GAG} Not cool.
Screw this. I'd go all
Screw this. I'd go all reverse psychology on his ass.
I'd start emailing/calling my ex too about super mundane things like "oh look, the sun is in exactly the same position it was when you and I were on the beach that day.."
"Hi ex - noticed they were showing 'X-Men' at the movies the other day - remember how you and I watched Part 1 and found it awesome?".
Let your thoughtless hubby realise that when people split up - they have no reason to contact eachother any more (unless, of course they have kids and then only during emergencies etc..etc..etc..).
Grr!
Beyond belief and sickened
Beyond belief and sickened again.
SO emailed the ex today as his grand dad has died. He thought she should know!
Fuming, hurt and seething again and he jusr doesnt get it.
Dont even know how to handle this anymore
Being this time it was not
Being this time it was not some random person, but SD's great-grandfather, it is fairly understandable. Not for ex's personal sake, but so she could have a heads-up on any potential grieving on SD's part.
For example, if SD will be involved with visitation and funeral. Make arrangements to have his daughter on non-parenting time , that sort of thing.
If he's calling the ex truly just to 'share' information on a personal not parental basis, that I agree is unnecessary and concerning.
I think I am going to go a
I think I am going to go a little against the grain here. I know there are situations where EXes have an amicable divorce and I don't think that just because you aren't at someone's throat that means you should have stayed together.
I think the email about the house that the EX had a shared love for was a little out of line. However, an email about a death, especially a death in the SO's family of a person that the EX may have had a very good relationship with is not out of line. Just as in "I thought you would want to know". If they were married a long time, it is likely the ex had a long relationship with the the grandfather and even if it wasn't kept up due to the divorce, that doesn't mean that the EX wouldn't have an interest in learning of the passing. (oh plus their kids together would probably be mourning this family member so it would be important for a parent to be aware of that).
If the contact is constant and totally related to non-kid issues, I would have a problem but a death notification that the EX may have an interest in learning about even if they weren't in current day contact with a person isn't out of line.
I just don't think I would be that threatened by that contact.