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let me tell you the tale of an entitled BM

queenofthedamned's picture

And no, it's not FDH's ex, it's his sister.

I'm not a fan. She and I could NOT be more different. She's a year older than me, and has never worked for more than a few months at a time. She has not worked at all since her meal ticket, aka her son, was born 10 years ago. Her son is autistic, she has an "anxiety disorder" and thus the government pays for her to sit on her ass all day. She can't work, because her son, who attends regular school and is gone 8 hours a day, is difficult and she can't trust anyone else with him. Nevermind that she gets free respite care from the government, and that many parents of autistic children, single parents even, WORK.

Oh, she does take some college classes - mainly to avoid paying back the student loans she took out for her unused degree - and never hesitates to brag about her GPA. Drives me crazy, because I take the same number of credits, have a higher GPA, and this thing called a FULL TIME JOB and you will never hear me brag. She has no humility whatsoever.

She cries poverty all the time, and will get jealous of people who have nice things because they WORK.

She refuses to go through the courts for child support, even though her ex would have to pay more, because she would lose some of her bennies - free health insurance with no copays and low income housing. Yet, she'll bitch and moan about how he's getting away with something because of how little he contributes. Umm, hello? How much do YOU contribute?

Anyway, the kicker is that her ex and his new wife are buying a house. They both WORK very hard, and have gotten to a financial point where homeownership is feasible.

Her reaction?

A hissy fit of "If they can afford to buy a house, they should be paying me more!!"

No, stupid, if you want HIM to pay more, you take HIM to court. HER income from WORKING has nothing to do with your child support. If she WORKS and buys a house, good for her.

Oh, but taking him to court would mean that she would have to WORK, and that is clearly unacceptable.

Ugh. She drives me crazy!

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queenofthedamned's picture

Yep thank goodness lol. When FDH and I first started dating she tried very hard to establish a relationship with me. But I just can't - I am at the point in my life where I do not tolerate the presence of people I abhor. lol. Plus, she's still good friends with BM, so yeah, not going to happen. We're not going to get together, all three of us, and sing kumbaya.

B22S22's picture

Same exact thing happened to me too!! Except I was building a new house. Of course in the midst of moving in, BM had to show up and walk right in (because her boyyyyyyzzzzzzzz were there) to scope out the digs.

She had nothing nice to say... made snide comments about lazy people who had to use movers, how horrible my wood floors would look in a year with kids in the house, sneered, "Who's choice of paint color was THAT?".

I told her to leave (in not so nice terms).

Accordn2L's picture

I think your SIL and my BM are related. Sitting on her ass collecting benefits, low incoming housing, free health care, child support from all the baby daddies, and bitching about what a victim she is. But she drives her boyfriends brand new car and has a new Iphone, poor thing.