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proud mom's picture

he never came to any meetings before why now!! I have an IEP meeting this morning concerning holding 6 yr old bs back in kindergarten. I am so unsure of what to do and have been told that I can request he be tested late in the summer to see where he is then decide what grade to put him in 1st or kindergarten.
Anyway I have always taken care of school matters even when we were married and now he has decided to take part. He already signed the form to hold him back, what the nerve. I explained to the school that we have joint decision making but, I am the custodial parent and they can not go just on what he has signed.

Ahhhhhhhh....I really don't want to have to deal with Mr. Wonderful today on top of several school personal and teachers I just have ot remind my self to keep my cool and not loose it. I don't know if I can do this just thinking about holding him back makes me cry.

Thanks for listening

Crystal

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sweetthing's picture

I used to volunteer in college at a parochial school & worked with first graders. There were two little boys who were held back my first year. I felt so bad for them at the time. However it was amazing how much more mature they were the next year & how much they excelled. I know that the decision was a tough one for sister & for the parents but it became so obvious that it had been the right one for them.

I also had a boyfriend in my early twenties who repeated the third grade. He said the toughest part was he had a brother who was a year younger & they were in the same class the rest of their school years. People always asked if they were twins & then they would have to explain. He said inspite of that ( and his brother was super smart to boot)that he really felt that his parents made the right move.

If your son is held back at this age it is not going to be tramatic & is better now than having him struggle & possible be held back later on. I know it's hard and it's hard to suddenly have a former spouse who was not involved previously now attempting to co parent ( although it sounds like someone needs to explain the whole concept to him... it means work together to make good choices not him suddenly signing forms)

Just repeat this mantra to yourself when dealing with Mr Wonderful, I thank God this man is no longer my responsibility or husband!!!

Hang in there!

Hanny's picture

they wanted to hold my daughter back in kindergarten. We just couldn't see it, she was very bright, but they said there was definitely a learning problem, but they couldn't put their finger on it yet. Well, we opted to send her on to first, and that was a big mistake, she had to repeat first grade. In the end they diagnosed her as dyslexic. And that was just the beginning of the struggles, but once diagnosed, she got a lot of extra help elementary through HS and then on into college. But holding them back in K is a lot easier on them than waiting until later when their older.

proud mom's picture

the decision was made to give him extra help and to do some testing this summer. He is going to repeat kindergarten but getting him to understand is not going to be easy anytime you try to tell him he says Mrs. **** says I am going to 1st grade. She doesn't tell him that she make refernce to it in the class room to the entire class. Anyway, the Ex didn't say much except well we just want to do what is best for BS. Here I was sitting there on the verge of tears discussing how far he has come and he just sits there like whatever. It was obvious that he only came to make it look good on him even though he didn't seem to care. Oh well like Sweetthing said Thank God this man is no longer my responsibilty or husband!!!Yeah!!!!!

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