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Visitation - Tales of MIL's crap

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Drop off was on Friday. DH was working, so I handled it.  Which typically is no big deal.  I drop the kids. Psycho hardly says a word. Then we're done.

Not this week though. Why? Because MIL doesn't know how to keep her nose out of EVERYONE's business.  Why is it at her house still? Because we moved it short term, MIL PROMISED to but out of things, so we mvoed it back. Bad. Idea.

So we get to MIL's house, get out of the car, Psycho pulls up like 10 minutes later, so I get the girls outside and as they're hopping into the car MIL comes out of the house... I'm already thinking "lovely, what s*** is she pulling today?"

So she walks up: "Hey, so Cousin of skids has a birthday party in October, but you'll have the girls, so you're all invited if you can make sure the girls make it there. I'll even pay for you all." (quick backstory. SIL can't be in the same vacinity as Psycho period... Other backstory.  I can't be around her for more than like 20 seconds or she starts being a jacka$$.  And my temper isn't going to be able to hold anything else in, so this is 200% a TERRIBLE idea.

Psycho: "Oh, well will there be food?"

MIL: "There will be."

Psycho: "We may be able to try and get them there, just get us an official invitation."

Me: *Pretending to smile and act like I know what the fudge is going on, while also trying not to murder MIL because I'm FUMING internally*

So we get inside.  Me to MIL: "Why did you do that? We had already figured it out. She does NOT have the kids that weekend."

MIL: "well it's fall break, so she might."

Me: "She doesn't. DH and I talked about it already.  We split it due to how vague the CO is. We already decided if she says something about fall break she's getting the half that doesn't have Cousin's party."

MIL: "well I was taking care of things."

Me: "Well don't. It's just going to cause mroe issues.  We'll handle things like this."

MIL: *changes subject*

In the meantime, I texted DH, told him what was going on, and asked him to handle this too. Because I'm sick of his mom's s***.

 

Fastforward to getting the girls both back. Who both came home sick...Yay...

Other "fun" things.  She informed SD10 that she has a super bad fever and can't eat ANYTHING.  Yet she was giving her Cocacola to drink...  Took them to get fast food, bought SD6 things, but NOTHING for SD10 because she told her her "stomach wouldn't be able to handle it"  When asked how she checked her temperature SD10 said that she touched her forhead with some fingers.  We checked it. ZERO fever, can't say she never had one technically... but.... I gave SD10 crackers and gatorade, she ate it totally fine, said she hadn't even thrown up at all during the weekend...  Got her some real food, SHOCKER, she felt MUCH better.

SD6 was congested.  This could be from a number of things, beginning of school crud, the fact Psycho is an AWFUl housekeeper, OH, or the fact that a cat lives in the skids room there and there's a litterbox... Which Psycho probably refuses to change... Because that's what she does. But hey, at least she FED her.

The skids said they spent the entire first night at the aunt's house then they just played video games until it was time to leave.

 

This is all stupid as he!!. 

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justmakingthebest's picture

Weren't you guys looking at moving away from your current town at one point? Is that still an option?

MIL has a big freaking mouth. LET THE PARENTS HANDLE THE KIDS- it isn't that hard! 

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

We were. And still possibly will. (fingers freaking crossed) I'm working on Personal Training and Nutrition certifications. So i plan on pushing more once I have those locked down. most of the jobs I've looked at for it are a few hours away...

DH is officially graduated! So once we figure out that and a few financial things. (My car died, like dead dead too expensive to fix died... So I had to get a new one, I stayed cheap, but it still puts us in an iffy spot financially since the other still had like 6 months left in it's financing, which means paying for 2 cars - it's like they sense when they're about the be paid off...)

Also exactly! Also inviting the Psychotic druggies to the kid party? Is she TRYING to start fights???

tog redux's picture

You've got a name in there. 

MIL knows exactly what she's doing. Whatever her sneaky plan is, it's well thought out. 

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Thanks, should be fixed!

Between this and the fact she tried lying to DH about what I said. She DEFINITELY is up to something... Just no clue what yet... But she's trying to start some kind of disaster...

Harry's picture

Your answer is always for her to text DH. About it. He’s the one who deals with that stuff.  He has to check the calendar 

Thumper's picture

Are the girls in car seats?  Do you need...really NEED to get them out of the car.

If not, they get out of the car, walk up to MIL.

Keep your windows rolled UP and pretend to be on your phone. Wave bye bye.. Wink

If she runs to your car and taps on the window---mouth " talk to dh--byeeeeee"

I would not exchange anyones child in a location that was not free from drama. Try a McDonalds???? MINUS MIL?

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

One of them is still in a booster seat. But naw. Probably don't have to get them out of the car. Honestly hadn't thought of it that way... Wink

We were swapping them to Psycho, MIL popped out of the house and butted into things talking to Psycho.(note, typically there is ZERO communication with Psycho during pick up and drop off, it's very simply, drop off and done)

Personally I want to swap back to the gas station... Slighting closer to our house, away from MIL... To me it sounds like a win win... Just saying.